The problem I'm having with women (long)

[Johnnyj580]

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I don't mean that I'm coming out of the closet. Outside of my friends, who are women(and single).

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That pretty much says it all. Find the nearest closet and come out of that sumbitch, saddles blazing. Then tell the people who USED to be your friends that the Brokeback Mountain jokes are getting old.

[meleader2]

YOU MUST BECOME HIM. it's worked for me, and it's gotten me a point for the male species against those pesky fem bots:

[smokingrobot]

sounds like you need to stop hanging out in bar scene's that attract vain vapid people.

that said, i know tons of girls who arent vain and vapid, and have met tons of guys who are, go figure. but chicks do need to hear things like "you look great tonight" etc way more than you or i. in fact, i dont ever need to hear it because im so vain and self centered, i could care less another person thought.

have you tried hanging with a different crowd? maybe go somewhere you or your social circle wouldnt normally go? perhaps take in a band you dont normally like, or drink at a bar you wouldnt normally go to. or try shopping at whole foods or trader joe's or wegmann's or whatever local organic grocery store is near you.

[Dan BRIGHT]

fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering

[diebitter]

Been here, bud. 18 months or so it took me - the first 6 were very painful, the last 12 were just a case of getting little less painful every day. I was cool with women and tended to go out with older ones till about the age of 17, then started into my own age group. That's where it went wrong.

You still got a broken heart. Only 3 things can help you - time, distraction, and a good woman.

Time and distraction go hand in hand. occupy yourself. Work out LOTS, read LOTS, do stuff to keep you thinking hard (reading is great, but music, cinema, hobbies where you're discovering - like astronomy maybe are good too)

Don't be looking for women's flaws - that just prolongs your pain and anger - just ignore them. I mean it, just ignore them as a source of attraction anyway. Talk to them, sure, but don't be interested. This isn't to play a 'game', but to keep yourself whole while you still mend.

Also try to socialise, but no picking up or talking to girls - they'll often just piss you off - you'll be looking for reasons to be pissed off, even if you don't know it. Best avoid that.

Once you are mended and over her, then it's time to encounter your good woman. It'll happen, just be prepared for a lot of time to pass. Better yourself physically and mentally while that time MUST pass.

[billyjex]

Read The Game by Neil Strauss.

[Ree Turd]

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Been here, bud. 18 months or so it took me - the first 6 were very painful, the last 12 were just a case of getting little less painful every day. I was cool with women and tended to go out with older ones till about the age of 17, then started into my own age group. That's where it went wrong.

You still got a broken heart. Only 3 things can help you - time, distraction, and a good woman.

Time and distraction go hand in hand. occupy yourself. Work out LOTS, read LOTS, do stuff to keep you thinking hard (reading is great, but music, cinema, hobbies where you're discovering - like astronomy maybe are good too)

Don't be looking for women's flaws - that just prolongs your pain and anger - just ignore them. I mean it, just ignore them as a source of attraction anyway. Talk to them, sure, but don't be interested. This isn't to play a 'game', but to keep yourself whole while you still mend.

Also try to socialise, but no picking up or talking to girls - they'll often just piss you off - you'll be looking for reasons to be pissed off, even if you don't know it. Best avoid that.

Once you are mended and over her, then it's time to encounter your good woman. It'll happen, just be prepared for a lot of time to pass. Better yourself physically and mentally while that time MUST pass.

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print the above and put it up somewhere you can see it often. that is exactly what is going to happen.

and when you meet Her - you will know it.

[Vavavoom]

Can I just say -

Blarg needs a new title :

"Dating Advice Guy"

or something like that....
This guy knows his onions....


OP, it sucks being single or not getting any for a while...But you have to want to meet people...I think Poker can be very detrimental to social skills..I was beginning to find this and rejoined my local gym...Get out more, in places where the sole object is not to romance someone (ie Bar/Club) but more to places where friendships can develop....

[Red Foreman]

Men don't talk about their feelings. Now bottle that crap back up inside where it belongs before I put my foot in your ass.

[Coffee]

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