She left me

[NewUser2006]

Fight for her damnit.

Let her know that you'd do anything to rekindle your relationship.

I'm a believer in the sanctity in marriage vows too. There are bad times in all relationships, but you need to work through them.

If YOU still love her, don't give up until you've breathed your last breath.

[siccjay]

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Let her know that you'd do anything to rekindle your relationship.

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Let her know by doing anything, don't tell her you are willing to do anything.

Learn how to make her attracted to you again.

[PokerBob]

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Fight for her damnit.

Let her know that you'd do anything to rekindle your relationship.

I'm a believer in the sanctity in marriage vows too. There are bad times in all relationships, but you need to work through them.

If YOU still love her, don't give up until you've breathed your last breath.

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i agree that you need to fight for her, and i think that you should not do anything rash. that said, there comes point where you need to move on but i do not think you are not at that point yet. but not giving up "until you breath your last breath" is simply not practical.

[Goodnews]

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So this is what growing up will be like.

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LOL

[NewUser2006]

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Fight for her damnit.

Let her know that you'd do anything to rekindle your relationship.

I'm a believer in the sanctity in marriage vows too. There are bad times in all relationships, but you need to work through them.

If YOU still love her, don't give up until you've breathed your last breath.

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i agree that you need to fight for her, and i think that you should not do anything rash. that said, there comes point where you need to move on but i do not think you are not at that point yet. but not giving up "until you breath your last breath" is simply not practical.

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"Love", whatever that means, is one of the few things that I'd die for.

[Corpsebean]

Sorry to hear this man. You seriously sound like a decent dude and as always it sucks when [censored] things happen to good people.

Good Luck.

(P.S. Make sure you get the dog if you guys split.)

[xwillience]

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Fight for her damnit.

Let her know that you'd do anything to rekindle your relationship.

I'm a believer in the sanctity in marriage vows too. There are bad times in all relationships, but you need to work through them.

If YOU still love her, don't give up until you've breathed your last breath.

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i agree that you need to fight for her, and i think that you should not do anything rash. that said, there comes point where you need to move on but i do not think you are not at that point yet. but not giving up "until you breath your last breath" is simply not practical.

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i wanted to write something deep and thoughtful in regards to the above conversation. something about understanding the desire to die trying to get her back but in the end sometimes you have to realize that its just part of life, and that afterwards, you still breathe in, and breathe out. But I got nothing good, so ill stick with an old fashioned "Good luck OP." Whatever you do, do it fully, dont let yourself doubt your conviction in whatever you decide.

[pc in NM]

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ALL:
Here's the thing about pushing things forward myself...I really think this would violate my belief in the sanctity of marriage (sanctity, not sanity...little of the latter obv)...Many of you disagree with that in principle, but when I made promises on my wedding day, I didn’t add: “unless some crazy s—t happens and you change your mind”…I wouldn’t have honor or integrity if I didn’t try to follow the commitment I made to never give up.

More importantly, I want to believe that it's not over… and if I just end it myself now I have no shot...But I'll try to keep in mind that if it really is over I should start calling shots myself to gain some more control over my life. I'll probably move out of town, maybe just pick up and travel for a few months...I dunno. I like my job but this town has little going for it other than her.

Another tough thing is that I have very few close friends in this city…they’ve all moved away…I can’t really go calling people up like a teenager and hanging out with my family is too depressing right now. Anyway, I know OOT is the wrong place for advice and consolation, cuz we’re all such sarcastic a-holes, but this thread has made me feel a bit better. Thanks again…

--GA

[/ QUOTE ] I came to this thread very late, but would offer you this...

Stick by your guns - if you want the marriage, maintain that position, and continue to offer to pursue marriage counseling. That's your choice, and nothing should stop you from doing what you value and desire....

However, until she decides that she wants to work on "saving" the marriage, I would advise against marriage counseling. Up to the point where she actually decides to commit to working out the problems in the marriage, it's her own personal and individual counseling issues that need to be addressed. Allowing her to be ambivalent or to merely explain why she doesn't want the marriage within the context of "masrriage counseling" only tears you up inside and allows her to vent passive agressive anger towards you - that's a "no win" situation for you. (Any competent therapist would know this too, IMNSHO!)

So, you can affirm your values and hopes, AND still set clear limits and reasonable expectations. Meanwhile, unless and until the situation gets to a clear resolution, start making that city more "your own" - that too might be a part of the ultimate resolution, whatever that may be....

Good luck!!!!

[Linksys]

Georgia Ave

Very sorry to hear this happened to you. Keep your head up and try not to let this deter you from seeking love again someday. There are a lot of stupid b*tches out there but there are also a lot of nice women.

Best of luck to you.

[Cyrus]

I wouldn't be surprised if she has a little dog.