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#181
11-01-2005, 12:24 PM
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Re: I SENT YOU A PM
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I would consider the OP staying with an unfaithful wife much more depressing than him discovering infedility and extricating himself from the situation. Its not a lock that she's cheating, but I don't think it looks good. If you had a reasonable suspicion that your wife was cheating, wouldn't you rather find out than turn the other cheek, as OP seems to be doing? I'd think that sort of distrust would completely erode the relationship, even if she was innocent. [/ QUOTE ] No bump list. I agree with your completely. I just find the whole subject pretty depressing. 
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#182
11-01-2005, 12:53 PM
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Re: My Wife\'s New \"Buddy\"
OP: Yeah, I figured that was your way of saying "hmm...link to other guy's email/blog/myspace...bad idea, no thanks". maybe a little too deadpan, though. next time link to the Chuddo thread [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]
Interesting, a Jealousy scale. Maybe here too we'd have an Unfaithfulness scale. At one end, totally innocent...at the other, totally not. In this case I'm guessing the wife is somewhere in the middle...she's probably *not* fooling around. not yet. but she could start and is probably thinking about it, even if only in a subconscious way. And, hey, there's the flirting factor. Is flirting being unfaithful? Could be there's some bits in those emails that she doesn't want to show that isn't cybersex but isn't devoid of some flirting, either. (I think there's a double standard as regards men/women flirting in the workplace, but that's a different issue.) [ QUOTE ] "I won't bat an eye if I walk in on my wife having a 3-some with 2 other guys" [/ QUOTE ] lol. and what if she's in the middle of filming a scene? I'd like to hear Dr. Dom talk about relationships in the industry...I've always understood that most folks in the porn business tend to date/have relationships within the community, because of the societal complications of sex.
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#183
05-18-2006, 03:49 AM
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Re: My Wife\'s New \"Buddy\"
usually you are right on in the advice department dom...but this time, while your intention is right and your observations are likely right, i think your method is unlikely to get the desired result.
if someone is convinced against their will, they are of the same opinion still. if she is not getting something from the OP that she is entitled to in the relationship...they should definitely discuss it. if she is playing games to "test" him, she deserves to know that they don't work well, and unless there is some very non traditional relationship behind this marriage, IF she doesn't stop talking to this guy, the marriage is almost certainly doomed. however, IMO it is more likely to work if he gives her the choice of breaking it off with OP or him it still comes across as an option instead of an ultimatum.
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#186
05-18-2006, 03:54 AM
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Re: My Wife\'s New \"Buddy\"
my wife of 1.5 yrs cheated on me. we divorced. my gf of 10 yrs cheated on me, we split.
fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me. fool me three times, i quit the game.
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#187
05-18-2006, 04:04 AM
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Re: My Wife\'s New \"Buddy\"
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my wife of 1.5 yrs cheated on me. we divorced. my gf of 10 yrs cheated on me, we split. fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me. fool me three times, i quit the game. [/ QUOTE ] so you're gay now?
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#188
05-18-2006, 04:05 AM
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Re: My Wife\'s New \"Buddy\"
I actually agree 100% with dom, the added bonus here of being a man is that you will look more ttractive in her eyes. Who would a woman want, a guy who is a pussy and does nothing when she walks all over him emotionaly, or a guy that grabs his balls and says what he means?
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#189
05-18-2006, 04:12 AM
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Re: My Wife\'s New \"Buddy\"
She is cheating you whether she is screwing around or not with some other guy. She is enjoying flirtatious male attention -- which in itself, all alone, is human. But she's lording it over you -- in her own mangled subconcious, this is not doubt a self justifying cry for help about her dissatisfaction. She's a mess. She probably needs help. Your marriage is a mess. Raise the stakes and leave her.
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#190
05-18-2006, 04:12 AM
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Re: My Wife\'s New \"Buddy\"
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[ QUOTE ] my wife of 1.5 yrs cheated on me. we divorced. my gf of 10 yrs cheated on me, we split. fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me. fool me three times, i quit the game. [/ QUOTE ] so you're gay now? [/ QUOTE ] you are so funny. you are so gq. can we have an asterick please.
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