girl troubles

[xxGreat1xx]

Ok so I'm 20 years old and I have been in a relationship for almost two years now. We met when we were freshmen in college now we are juniors. For the first year or so she was real laid back and didnt really care too much what I did, I wasnt doing anything bad but she just seemed to trust me more hanging out with my friends and stuff. But as of the last few months in a twisted bit of logic she questions everything I do. We have had a few major fights and near breakups.

Last week I decided that I just didn't care if we broke up. I am hating being tied down, it's just not my style. It's why I moved out of my parents house as soon as I turned 18. But, tonight we were just sitting around and we got in a small argument about something(that tells you how small) and she says, "why are we fighting all the time now?" I tell her I dont know, although I assume I have probably been acting different because of my recent change of heart, and she has probably caught on.

Long story I know, sorry. So we had a very awkward night after that and she didn't say much and now I think we both know how close we are to breaking up. But even though this is what I thought I wanted, I feel horrible seeing her hurt and I'm wondering if I might be making a mistake. I have lots of other stuff to fall back on that I don't get to participate in with a girlfriend though, a fraternity, road trips, poker at the casino, ect.

I dont really know what I'm asking anyone for, maybe just someone in a similar situation or someone who had a similar thing happen and can say how it worked out. I mean, she has freaked me out a little talking about getting married and what she wants to name our kids and all kinds of stuff. I think I am definitely too young for this stuff. I guess I just needed to vent. Replies appreciated though

[Lurker.]

wowwww

[deluz35]

If you don't want kids and she's talking about the kids' names, DO NOT HAVE SEX. Even if she's on the pill, she could "forget" etc. Take a break...

[jeffman]

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If you don't want kids and she's talking about the kids' names, DO NOT HAVE SEX . Even if she's on the pill, she could "forget" etc. Take a break...

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sounds easy enough...
or does it?!?!?!

[tmcdmck]

I have been in a very similar situation. breaking up from a serious relationship ALWAYS makes you feel bad, even if you are certain it is what you want. I think this is because the relationship would never have become serious is there was not something in the girl you thought was great. As you approach the breakup, the nice part of you starts reminding you of why you liked her so much, because you feel that you will be an [censored] if you do not consider it, if you just chuck away however long a period of time without some reflection first.

Conclusion: Just because it suddenly feels wrong before you breakup, does not mean anything has changed, it is standard. Push on with it if your mind knows it should be over. FOr about a month you might wonder if you did the right thing, then after that you will feel about 100lbs lighter.

[chh]

standard oneitis. If it doesnt feel good, it's not good for you.

[TheBlueMonster]

Ooooh. These threads are fun.

[psuasskicker]

Break it off. A girl was in the same situation with my brother and said she was on the pill. Then she got pregnant.

Nothing good can/will come from stringing her along. End it before you do more damage.

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[Droogie]

Your feelings > Her feelings. So break up LDO.

[boscoboy]

Run