"He has to like her more"

DeezNuts · #1 02-06-2007, 01:28 PM

I always hear people say this, that is, the guy HAS TO like the girl more than the girl likes the guy for the relationship to work. I understand that it's partially because guys are much more likely to cheat. Also, it seems for some girls basically all that they need is for the guy to be completely in love with them for a relationship to work, but for guys, this doesn't seem to be enough.

I've definitely seen this play out in most real-life relationships; at best there seems to be an equal amount of "like" between the two people, at worst the guy is a slobbering puppy dog when the girl is around.

I know I'm generalizing and of course there are a million other factors that go into a successful relationship, but is this generally a true statement?

DN

Luckboxer · #2 02-06-2007, 01:31 PM

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guys are much more likely to cheat.

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sometimes I wonder if this is just a lie we tell ourselves.

MrWookie · #3 02-06-2007, 01:42 PM

I think it's exactly the opposite, dude. How many threads does OOT have where some guy is posting about a failed relationship, esp. early in the relationship, in which he let himself fall too hard for some chick and she got scared off or tired of him? Why do you think jerks get chicks?

M2d · #4 02-06-2007, 01:42 PM

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guys are much more likely to cheat.

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sometimes I wonder if this is just a lie we tell ourselves.

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I think we're more likely to get caught/brag about cheating.

slickpoppa · #5 02-06-2007, 01:50 PM

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I think it's exactly the opposite

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True dat. Women hate needy guys. They want to be the needy ones

Aloysius · #6 02-06-2007, 01:57 PM

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Why do you think jerks get chicks?

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I always hear people say this, that is, the guy HAS TO like the girl more than the girl likes the guy for the relationship to work.

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Wook - what % of the relationships "jerks" are in with chicks do you think are working out well?

DN - I think this is not necessarily true "feeling" wise, but from a female perception standpoint (meaning how the girl looks at the relationship) I think it's important because yes, girls are needier and they need to feel that the guy is incented to stick around.

-Al

Colt McCoy · #7 02-06-2007, 02:01 PM

OP,

I think you're confusing a working relationship with a girl walking all over a guy.

fnord_too · #8 02-06-2007, 02:22 PM

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guys are much more likely to cheat.

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sometimes I wonder if this is just a lie we tell ourselves.

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I want to say there are studies which suggest women cheat as much or more than men. Maybe someone ambitious can research this. I am sure there have been sociology or psychology studies on this exact issue.

El Diablo · #9 02-06-2007, 02:25 PM

Deez,

Hmmmm... I've actually never heard that.

I've always thought that one person liking the other person more than they are liked back is the recipe for a relationship that won't work.

Obviously there's rarely a 100% match, but I think the best relationships are all people who like each other more or less to the same degree.

DeezNuts · #10 02-06-2007, 02:27 PM

I am talking more about LTRs and marriage.

I would say that in the majority of the weddings I've been to, the guy unequivocally loves the girl more(at least from what info I am privy to). I think this may be a cultural thing, it seems to be pretty common in asian relationships.

DN