Is this behavior acceptable in a relationship?

AsH_KeTcHuM · #1 09-27-2006, 04:00 PM

I'm in a LTR with my girlfriend going on 3 years. I have only a couple of very close friends that I breakdance with, and workout with. But I recently joined a hip-hop dance team called Culture Shock and have a lot of new acquaintances. Its a co-ed team, all around my age, and of course we are all dance enthusiasts, so I seem to get along with them pretty well so far despite my introvertedness.

Anyways, the first team party was a couple of months ago, and I wanted to go on my own without my GF. She was offended by me wanting to go on my own and we had a big fight about it. I then said I'd take her, but Another fight we got into led to me saying "f-it Im going on my own now." Which I did.

I didn't hook up with any chicks there, and to be honest there's only one really hot chick out of the bunch, so it was a pretty harmless night.

Another one is coming up, and again I just want to go on my own. My G/f is upset again, and thinks I want to be all touchy feely flirty with the girls and thats why I don't want her going. She says she cant trust me, or them, when were all drunk and stuff.

To be honest I don't know exactly why I don't want her going. I guess because I like to act differently around my boys. Also I tend to act like a jackass when Im drunk, my girlfriend gets pissy and kills my buzz also. Theres noone there I'm trying to hook up with, and although I would act differently when my girl isn't there, I'm not planning on doing anything definitively bad.

I understand why she would be upset that I'm not inviting her to come, but I don't know whether its reasonable of me to expect her to accept my wishes or not. Do you guys think its ok to separate your s/o and social life like this? Also I don't party or club a lot if that makes any difference.

WhiteMike13 · #2 09-27-2006, 04:06 PM

If you have nothing to hide then you should take her.

blinden84 · #3 09-27-2006, 04:08 PM

invite her, if she doesn't get along with you there, maybe you are heading in different directions. Tell her "blinden don't dance." and move on.

miajag · #4 09-27-2006, 04:09 PM

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Anyone else laughing too hard to continue after reading this?

onthebutton · #5 09-27-2006, 04:09 PM

It's obvious she doesn't trust you. Is there a reason for this? If not, to the curb with her.

cold_cash · #6 09-27-2006, 04:09 PM

Maybe if she's such a buzzkill that you don't like to take her to a party with your friends you should consider getting a different girlfriend.

deadbody · #7 09-27-2006, 04:10 PM

In an LTR you should have things you do seperately. If your girl doesn't get that then she is probably too clingy.

Dump her

raisins · #8 09-27-2006, 04:10 PM

I'm not going to comment about acceptable or unacceptable. That's up to you and your girl. But the more relaxed you are about how you act no matter who is around the fewer awkward situations like this you'll have. Otherwise you resemble a little kid looking to act out once the parents are gone.

Might be a good change.

You enter into relationships voluntarily. If you want to be rowdy around your boys you don't need to hide that assuming your an adult. Or if you do maybe that's what you should be paying attention to.

onthebutton · #9 09-27-2006, 04:10 PM

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Anyone else laughing too hard to continue after reading this?

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I've seen it in other AsH threads before, but it's still funny.

Fast Food Knight · #10 09-27-2006, 04:10 PM

The fact that you don't want her to be there is a bad sign and suggests to me that there are deeper troubles in the relationship. If I had a new group of friends you better believe I'd want my S.O. there to meet them and for me to show off.