Improving First Impressions

kipin · #1 09-20-2006, 10:31 PM

I am a pretty self-aware person, and I realize that one of my weakest character traits is my underwhelming ability to impress people (read: GIRLS) on the first meeting.

I usually do a little bit better with this if I have some alcohol in me, but I still manage to leave (what I believe is) no impression what so ever on anyone after I meet someone for the first time.

Is this something that is bound to doom me for the rest of my life, or is this a character trait one can work on?

I know I stand out from the crowd (I am a giant, with a jewfro) so I imagine this works in my favor, but I'm really looking for some sort of motivational advice that will hook people into wanting to see me again, or talk to me again.

Anyone have any trade secrets they would like to share?

Mister Peanut · #2 09-20-2006, 10:32 PM

I find that eliminating "respek" from my vocabulary works wonders w/ impressing white women.

kipin · #3 09-20-2006, 10:33 PM

stewie,

Respek.

His Boy Elroy · #4 09-20-2006, 10:35 PM

Eye contact.

kipin · #5 09-20-2006, 10:38 PM

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Eye contact.

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I think I am really good with eye contact, and it is actually something I really concentrate on when I am meeting someone new, especially during the "shaking hands" phase.

That being said, I'll have to see if I stop making eye contact once I start having a conversation with someone.

lippy · #6 09-20-2006, 10:40 PM

Smile, act really interested in anything they have to talk about. Don't talk much, ask a lot of questions.

His Boy Elroy · #7 09-20-2006, 10:42 PM

I often find myself staring at a person's mouth rather than their eyes when I'm having a conversation. I think that it is a lot easier to read a person's feelings if you are looking them in the eye. This makes it easier to steer conversations in new directions if you feel that a chick isn't liking it, or keep it going in the same direction if you feel she is digging it. It truly is all about the eye contact.

FortunaMaximus · #8 09-20-2006, 10:44 PM

Be humble even if you aren't.

Women see through you anyway, so break down the walls the more you like her.

Ain't Harvard, man. Ain't hard. Just be you.

Edit: Covered anyway, but listen, listen, listen. They love to share everything.

Anacardo · #9 09-20-2006, 10:51 PM

Subscribe to the 'Cardo Theorem - a first impression is something to be survived.

DarkForceRising · #10 09-20-2006, 11:21 PM

11 and 12: Crotch Display and Cowpoke Stance