Ex girlfriend dating a friend - Should I be mad?

KostnersindaHole · #1 07-31-2006, 11:45 AM

I dated this girl for about 1 1/2 years, and we broke up more than a year ago. (She broke up with me, btw) I was pretty miserable about the whole thing for a while, before I finally got myself over the whole thing. Well I spoke with her this past weekend for the first time in a few months and I found out from her that she's dating a guy I used to work with, and who I definitely talked to alot about her. They still work together (at the bar we all used to work at). Him and I don't see each other much anymore, so we don't talk that often, but I was kind of taken aback by this.

Should I be mad about the whole thing? I mean, I guess I have no right telling anyone they can't date anybody even though it does go against my policy that I would never date anyone that broke up with a buddy of mine. But that's my policy...nothing standard. I think I at least deserved to get some kind of call from him telling me beforehand or expressing his interests. Am I out of line by thinking that? Is it wrong for me to think he's a douchebag for not saying something to me about this? Cause that's pretty much my number one complaint right now.

Gildwulf · #2 07-31-2006, 11:48 AM

You have no rights over this girl and shouldn't be mad.

I would probably have the same reaction, though. Dating anyone for that long means you are going to have feelings about her for a long time, even subconsciously. Guys are also way overprotective and just thinking about a girl you used to love banging other dudes, especially ones you know definitely hurts.

DMBFan23 · #3 07-31-2006, 11:48 AM

it sounds like you and him aren't really that close, would that make him calling you at all (let alone to talk about this) kind of awkward?

sucks, but given how close you have described you and this guy to be (i.e., not very) I'm not really surprised by how things went down.

how long have they been dating?

Canard · #4 07-31-2006, 11:49 AM

"Ex Girlfriend who I hardly ever talk to anymore dating guy that I never talk to anymore" would be a more accurate title?

chesspain · #5 07-31-2006, 11:50 AM

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I spoke with her this past weekend for the first time in a few months and I found out from her that she's dating a guy I used to work with, and who I definitely talked to alot about her.

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Him and I don't see each other much anymore, so we don't talk that often

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Is it wrong for me to think he's a douchebag for not saying something to me about this?

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So, some guy that you hardly speak to much anymore didn't call to tell you that he's now dating the girl who dumped you over a year ago?

Grow up.

CappyAA · #6 07-31-2006, 11:54 AM

Tough spot man. You can't be mad about who she's dating. It sounds like you are not really great friends with the guy anymore. Just don't be friendly with him if you see him anymore if it bothers you that much. It would have been courteous to say something to you, but what would that have really changed? If you said no, he'd still do it anyways.

Alobar · #7 07-31-2006, 12:05 PM

like everyone else has said, you cant be pissed at the guy because you guys dont really sound like friends anymore. Sucks for you tho, so your pain is understandable, but you just gotta let it go.

BluffTHIS! · #8 07-31-2006, 12:17 PM

OP,

If you threw half a Big Mac in the garbage and saw a homeless dude get it out and eat it, would it upset you?

Gildwulf · #9 07-31-2006, 12:18 PM

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If you threw half a Big Mac in the garbage and saw a homeless dude get it out and eat it, would it upset you?

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Are you calling his ex fat?

george w · #10 07-31-2006, 12:31 PM

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Should I be mad about the whole thing?

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no. who cares? you shouldn't.