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How often do you think about what you should have said?
So several times a day I'll replay old conversations or confrontations in my head, invariably thinking about what I should have said instead. These conversations often occurred 5+ years ago, with some dating back almost 20 years (I'm 26).
I really feel like I should have let these things go, but whenever I'm just spacing out driving home these things slip into my head and I still get really fired up and agitated about them before I snap myself out of it. Does anyone else do this? Am I insane, or at least well on my way? |
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Re: How often do you think about what you should have said?
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So several times a day I'll replay old conversations or confrontations in my head, invariably thinking about what I should have said instead. These conversations often occurred 5+ years ago, with some dating back almost 20 years (I'm 26). I really feel like I should have let these things go, but whenever I'm just spacing out driving home these things slip into my head and I still get really fired up and agitated about them before I snap myself out of it. Does anyone else do this? Am I insane, or at least well on my way? [/ QUOTE ] Going back to when you were 6?!?! That's weird. You probably are insane. |
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Re: How often do you think about what you should have said?
Oh, yeah? Well the jerk store called and you're their top seller.
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Re: How often do you think about what you should have said?
it's pretty common/normal to wish you said something after the moment has passed. however, to still be dwelling on things from 15-20 years ago is a little obsessive.
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Re: How often do you think about what you should have said?
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it's pretty common/normal to wish you said something after the moment has passed. however, to still be dwelling on things from 15-20 years ago is a little obsessive. [/ QUOTE ] I agree with this, but I wouldn't really consider it dwelling, as these things are more come and go. These old exchanges pop into my head, I naturally think about what I should have said, then create a false positive memory with me saying exactly the right thing and getting the better of whoever. It's usually detailed enough to the point that I believe it for a second, then I experience a level of frustration when I remind myself of the reality. The more I write it out, the more certain I become that I'm insane. |
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Re: How often do you think about what you should have said?
Clearly you should find the people who you had the conversations with, call them up, re-create the scenario, make the same conversation repeat itself, and use the line.
To have a line as perfect as jerk store and never to use it. I couldn't live with myself. |
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Re: How often do you think about what you should have said?
It's fairly common for me to regret something I said, usualy in the morning nursing on a headache. I dont think I ever dwell on these things for more then a few days though. I also think it's probably very common for people to wish they had done things differently 5 years ago, like nail a girl who you now realise wanted you, but I dont think most people think about specific conversations they had that long ago.
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Re: How often do you think about what you should have said?
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Oh, yeah? Well the jerk store called and you're their top seller. [/ QUOTE ] Well actually the jerk store was running out of YOU, but it doesn't matter because I'm their all time best seller. In other news, I had sex with your wife. |
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Re: How often do you think about what you should have said?
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These old exchanges pop into my head, I naturally think about what I should have said, then create a false positive memory with me saying exactly the right thing and getting the better of whoever. [/ QUOTE ] this borders on delussional. but in a strange way it's probably a positive thing to want to try and set your past mistakes right - just a little odd to want to fix conversations as opposed to actions or decisions. i suppose there isn't any real harm in this type of mild insanity. enjoy! |
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Re: How often do you think about what you should have said?
I'm this way about one situation that I can remember, that happened 7 years ago. [censored] boardwalk punks
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