What men want...damn, she nailed it

#1 05-19-2006, 05:04 AM

My insomnia'd brain found this cool link. Totally, absolutely, nailed my personality type and what motivates me in a relationship.

http://english.literotica.com/storie....php?id=256799

BeaucoupFish · #2 05-19-2006, 05:19 AM

Wow, you REALLY can't sleep....!

bonds25 · #3 05-19-2006, 05:41 AM

tl;dr

SammyKid11 · #4 05-19-2006, 06:08 AM

I found it an interesting read.

SammyKid11 · #5 05-19-2006, 06:08 AM

And no...I can't sleep either.

#6 05-19-2006, 06:16 AM

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Yea, the whole bit about my wanting to see her happy, pleasured, whatever, nails it. I'm an approval whore, nothing motivates me more than the fact that the person I'm doing it for is genuinely excited about it.

Could be sex with my wife. Could be getting a friend that out of print book. Could be my coworker saying my new algorithm is really freaking cool. The reverse is true too. If no one else shows they care, I don't care either and I won't get the job done.

I knew that was part of my personality, but I'd never seen it spelled out so clearly.

CamelZoo · #7 05-19-2006, 07:00 AM

im fwd'ing this to wifey thank you

Utah · #8 05-19-2006, 08:20 AM

sorry, but the whole article is just a feel good lie. Men are not driven by appreciation. They are driven by sexual attraction, sexual frustration, and sexual triumph. Appreciation has absolutely nothing to do with it as the article claims. When a man is sexually aroused his body releases oxytocin, which fosters closeness, caring, and love. When a man has an orgasm the oxytocin levels drop and the man becomes disinterested. Appreciation does nothing for oxytocin levels as far as I know.

Therefore, the key to a man's heart is his small brain, not his big one. You may or may not believe me but it is a simple test for a married couple. Have the wife cut off sexual release for the man and deny him porn or the ability for him to release himself. Then, the wife should tease him mercilessly. The result - after a certain amount of time the man will do anything the wife asks and he will do so very happily. He will require ZERO appreciation from the wife. He will start feeling more in love with her and he will start thinking less of other women and his wife will start to become his soul focus and he will desire desperately to "conquer" her. He will start romantizing her and taking her on the fun dates that seamingly died long ago. In bed, he will start worrying greatly about her pleasure and not his own because he cant have any release. Now, when she finally allows him to orgasm he will almost immediately lose interest - ask him to take out the trash immediately after and he will not want to even though he would have done gleefully 20 minutes earlier.

Now, run my experiment against the an experiment from the junk in this article and compare which is more effective. I would bet every dollar I have that over a small sample size my experiment would win by a HUGE margin.

It is shocking that marriage counselors and experts still have no idea about what drives men - or they just dont want to admit it. I think there are a lot of people who try executing the marriage counselor playbook and it doesnt work and it is super frustrating - worse people start feeling bad about themselves as they think, "Why doesnt this work for me? Why can't I just feel what I am supposed to fee?".

Note - there is also a flip side to this. Women dont neccessarily want a nice caring appreciative man. They may want a good provider to take care of their offspring, but what they really crave is a man of status and/or of looks. That is what drives them sexually crazy as this tells them the man has strong genes. This attraction can be exceptionally strong and it is why women cheat in big numbers. To se a real life example, just look at the countless chicks throwing themselves at even the ugliest rock stars.

It is all based on evolutionary theory and it is funny that there is such a disconnect between the reality of our instincts and the crap we are taught.

bisonbison · #9 05-19-2006, 08:21 AM

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sorry, but the whole article is just a feel good lie. Men are not driven by appreciation. They are driven by sexual attraction, sexual frustration, and sexual triumph. Appreciation has absolutely nothing to do with it as the article claims. When a man is sexually aroused his body releases oxytocin, which fosters closeness, caring, and love. When a man has an orgasm the oxytocin levels drop and the man becomes disinterested. Appreciation does nothing for oxytocin levels as far as I know.

Therefore, the key to a man's heart is his small brain, not his big one. You may or may not believe me but it is a simple test for a married couple. Have the wife cut off sexual release for the man and deny him porn or the ability for him to release himself. Then, the wife should tease him mercilessly. The result - after a certain amount of time the man will do anything the wife asks and he will do so very happily. He will require ZERO appreciation from the wife. He will start feeling more in love with her and he will start thinking less of other women and his wife will start to become his soul focus and he will desire desperately to "conquer" her. He will start romantizing her and taking her on the fun dates that seamingly died long ago. In bed, he will start worrying greatly about her pleasure and not his own because he cant have any release. Now, when she finally allows him to orgasm he will almost immediately lose interest - ask him to take out the trash immediately after and he will not want to even though he would have done gleefully 20 minutes earlier.

Now, run my experiment against the an experiment from the junk in this article and compare which is more effective. I would bet every dollar I have that over a small sample size my experiment would win by a HUGE margin.

It is shocking that marriage counselors and experts still have no idea about what drives men - or they just dont want to admit it. I think there are a lot of people who try executing the marriage counselor playbook and it doesnt work and it is super frustrating - worse people start feeling bad about themselves as they think, "Why doesnt this work for me? Why can't I just feel what I am supposed to fee?".

Note - there is also a flip side to this. Women dont neccessarily want a nice caring appreciative man. They may want a good provider to take care of their offspring, but what they really crave is a man of status and/or of looks. That is what drives them sexually crazy as this tells them the man has strong genes. This attraction can be exceptionally strong and it is why women cheat in big numbers. To se a real life example, just look at the countless chicks throwing themselves at even the ugliest rock stars.

It is all based on evolutionary theory and it is funny that there is such a disconnect between the reality of our instincts and the crap we are taught.

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What a load of garbage.

Doug Funnie II · #10 05-19-2006, 08:29 AM

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sorry, but the whole article is just a feel good lie. Men are not driven by appreciation. They are driven by sexual attraction, sexual frustration, and sexual triumph. Appreciation has absolutely nothing to do with it as the article claims. When a man is sexually aroused his body releases oxytocin, which fosters closeness, caring, and love. When a man has an orgasm the oxytocin levels drop and the man becomes disinterested. Appreciation does nothing for oxytocin levels as far as I know.

Therefore, the key to a man's heart is his small brain, not his big one. You may or may not believe me but it is a simple test for a married couple. Have the wife cut off sexual release for the man and deny him porn or the ability for him to release himself. Then, the wife should tease him mercilessly. The result - after a certain amount of time the man will do anything the wife asks and he will do so very happily. He will require ZERO appreciation from the wife. He will start feeling more in love with her and he will start thinking less of other women and his wife will start to become his soul focus and he will desire desperately to "conquer" her. He will start romantizing her and taking her on the fun dates that seamingly died long ago. In bed, he will start worrying greatly about her pleasure and not his own because he cant have any release. Now, when she finally allows him to orgasm he will almost immediately lose interest - ask him to take out the trash immediately after and he will not want to even though he would have done gleefully 20 minutes earlier.

Now, run my experiment against the an experiment from the junk in this article and compare which is more effective. I would bet every dollar I have that over a small sample size my experiment would win by a HUGE margin.

It is shocking that marriage counselors and experts still have no idea about what drives men - or they just dont want to admit it. I think there are a lot of people who try executing the marriage counselor playbook and it doesnt work and it is super frustrating - worse people start feeling bad about themselves as they think, "Why doesnt this work for me? Why can't I just feel what I am supposed to fee?".

Note - there is also a flip side to this. Women dont neccessarily want a nice caring appreciative man. They may want a good provider to take care of their offspring, but what they really crave is a man of status and/or of looks. That is what drives them sexually crazy as this tells them the man has strong genes. This attraction can be exceptionally strong and it is why women cheat in big numbers. To se a real life example, just look at the countless chicks throwing themselves at even the ugliest rock stars.

It is all based on evolutionary theory and it is funny that there is such a disconnect between the reality of our instincts and the crap we are taught.

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Good god man, don't post stuff with implications as strong as this in an open forum!