Wanting a girl to keep on cheating.

[jkamowitz]

Has anyone else been in a similar situation. I'm semi-seeing a girl who has a boyfriend. But! this boyfriend lives in CO, I live in NY and she sees him once every two/three months. However, recently she's started talking about breaking up with him and being with me (which I promptly told her would not happen) Any suggestions on how to keep this girl and not date her?

[JP OSU]

If she's not completely retarded, I can't see any argument that you could possibly make that she should keep the bf and keep [censored] you...

[Suigin406]

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If she's not completely retarded, I can't see any argument that you could possibly make that she should keep the bf and keep [censored] you...

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this is prolly true...she looks like wants to be in a relationship and u don't want to do this...i can't see how ur going to work this out...for the moment, i would delay this by telling her ur not sure if ur ready for a relationship. I know this sounds weak, but i think ur in a tough spot here...good luck...

[Big Poppa Smurf]

i suppose you could just string her along for another month or so, but that's eventually going to backfire hard

[traz]

Tell her you're not ready for a relationship...or that you're a poor sob

[Shenlong]

Go out with her for a month or two, and wait for her to cheat on you. Kick her to the curb for the moment, then have drunken sex whenever you see her at a party, no strings attached. If she brings up relationship stuff again, tell her you can't trust her, sorry, no deal.

[Scotty.]

Whoever is single and says they wouldn't bone some girl just because she has a bf across the country is lying to themselves, and everyone else here.

[stealthcow]

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAH

"However, recently she's started talking about breaking up with him and being with me (which I promptly told her would not happen)"

can you expand on this part of your conversation?

ian

ps. where did the 2 *'s come from?

[jkamowitz]

Thanks for all the responses, I'm glad to see people are as torn on this as I am.

Stealthcow: as per that conversation it went as follows,
Me: Would you really want to be in a relationship right after breaking up with a serious boyfriend anyways?
Her: No, well maybe with you yes.
Me: Well, I'm sorry, i'm not saying it would never/could not happen but you know my opinion on relationships especially in college and how they end in people angry at each other and often friendships are lost.
Her: Yeah
Me: Well yeah I dont want that to happen to us. I dont want to be that guy.

Update:
So after she got into a large fight with her boyfriend and called me to tell me that they were on the verge of breaking up I went over to her room. She seemed to be ok although in a weakish mood and I consoled her and listened to her go on about their fight. "He's just so boring" She kept repeating ". . .and he's not even good in bed." I told her that she's in a bind because of the distance and that of course things would be different between me and her as well as her and him if he lived closer.
She agreed. I told her my opinion of their relationship (she's a heavy partier and he's not, she's a die hard liberal and he's in the airforce, they don't have much in common) etc. and she agreed.
Note: I kept reiterating that it was tough for me to be both her friend and this guy she wants to sleep with and that my opinion is just that. It was important that she did not take my advice as objective. She understood and I explained that I have nothing against this guy and that he seems like a nice guy. I told her I did not want to break them up but that she should be happy and right now she most certainly is not. I went home that night and ignored her text to come back.

Nonetheless, she came over and spent the night last night and stayed well into the day. She asked me if we were dating and I asked her what she thought. She said no and I quickly agreed.

[neuroman]

jkam, thanks for the update. It sounds like you're doing a fine job handling this.