Best friend slept with girl of my dreams, what SHOULD I do?

[Burdzthewurd]

Backstory: I've been best friends with this guy since freshman year in college (we'll call him John). He introduced me to his then-girlfriend's little sister Anna. I am 19 at time, she is 17. We hit it off but don't see each other that much due to distance (2 hours or so). Years pass and we grow closer as friends with some innocent flirting or so.

It's 3 years later, and she comes to meet me at my best friend's flat for the night. We both had feeling for each other, but everytime we were alone, we would get close to each other, then she'd pull away and start drinking again (she's really drunk, I am intoxicated but not beyond acting myself). My best friend is buzzed but not drunk. He tried to give us alone time to no avail.

We all head to bed around 3. I get up to take a piss and notice the door to her guest room is open and she isn't there. I go to the bathroom, which is next to my best friend's room. I hear them both moaning loudly. Obvious what's going down.

I'm not a violent guy, and beating his brains out won't do anything for me emotionally. What sort of approach do I take in confrontation though? Yes I'll listen to what he has to say, but nothing justifies what he did. Maybe it's stupid since I don't ever plan on talking to him or her or anyone they know again, but letting him off the hook is unacceptable, I'm only human.

What would many of you do here? Also mods, please don't move this to BBV, it's just this has not happened to any of my close friends and I have no idea how to deal with this. Thanks.

[Droogie]

Hate the girl.
Hate your game.
Hate your oneitis.
Don't hate your friend, yo...

[happyhappyhappy]

Had you told him that you were completely in love with this girl?

Had you told her that you were completely in love with her?

Had you and the girl talked about any possibility of 'you two' before?

As much as this crushes you, unless all three of those things happened, I can't see you having anyone to be mad at really.

Nothing worse though, sorry man. Go pick up another hottie and enjoy yourself.

[Burdzthewurd]

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Had you told him that you were completely in love with this girl?

Had you told her that you were completely in love with her?

Had you and the girl talked about any possibility of 'you two' before?

As much as this crushes you, unless all three of those things happened, I can't see you having anyone to be mad at really.

Nothing worse though, sorry man. Go pick up another hottie and enjoy yourself.

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Yes to all of those. She wanted to "see what would happen" last night.

[happyhappyhappy]

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Had you told him that you were completely in love with this girl?

Had you told her that you were completely in love with her?

Had you and the girl talked about any possibility of 'you two' before?

As much as this crushes you, unless all three of those things happened, I can't see you having anyone to be mad at really.

Nothing worse though, sorry man. Go pick up another hottie and enjoy yourself.

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Yes to all of those. She wanted to "see what would happen" last night.

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Explain what she meant by 'see what would happen last night' please. With you (two)?

[Burdzthewurd]

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Had you told him that you were completely in love with this girl?

Had you told her that you were completely in love with her?

Had you and the girl talked about any possibility of 'you two' before?

As much as this crushes you, unless all three of those things happened, I can't see you having anyone to be mad at really.

Nothing worse though, sorry man. Go pick up another hottie and enjoy yourself.

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Yes to all of those. She wanted to "see what would happen" last night.

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Explain what she meant by 'see what happen last night' please.

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Most likely if we had romantic chemistry. She's only slept with one other guy before (her last boyfriend of 8 months), so even when drunk she hasn't pulled a thing like this before (that I know of at least).

Also, my friend was nowhere near out of his mind drunk if that counts for anything.

[The Yugoslavian]

Oops!

Time to move on.

Yugoslav

[Droogie]

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She wanted to "see what would happen" last night.

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And that she did [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

[luckyjimm]

Next time they're in his room having noisy sex, hide in his closet & jack off in an intensely miserable yet really quite exciting kind of way?

[J_V]

Great thread. Op, you rule. I hope you find another girl of your dreams.