OOT, help me - for the love of God (sad girl story)

[Boris]

Are they still banging in the next room?

[Worrots]

[Knight Vision]

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It'll probably help OP out a lot more in the long run if he starts acting like an adult and lets the girl stay in the suite. He should probably get a job, a hobby or take up some kind of sport so that he can get into more social situations with different women. Kicking that girl out won't solve the fact that OP is really a wuss.

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Other than the wuss stuff (which might or might not be true) I agree with all this. OP should move out the house to get away from GF and family. Both are parachutes to OP. One will never open, other will always open. So you are free to leave them both bro. Go live a little.

I will promise you this. Everyday she is part of your daily life is one day further from getting over her. Sounds simple, but the clock won't start ticking until one of you leaves the other's life completely. It's been two years already. No question you might still be hurting after two years had you never seen her again, but you are two years behind now and it will go on as long as you let it.

[Ser William]

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Tonight I get home at 11pm and her ex's car is around the corner from my house.

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Is it too late to take a big [censored] on his car?

PS, move the [censored] on. Christ, its been 2 years, what the [censored].

[Rushmore]

There is one and only one answer to this question:

Sweet fancy Moses--MOVE OUT OF YOUR PARENTS HOUSE!!!!! You're a grown man; go make a life. Start out simple, renting a little room if need be, a room in a group house, whatever.

Walk away from the woman. She's just a user and a manipulator. I know it's hard to see right now, but she's not the woman for you.

By the way, I hope neither one of you got detention when she PASSED YOU A NOTE.

Wtf??!

Seriously, shed your skin. Move on to adulthood, and do it now.

[A S U]

I haven't read all the replies, but it sounds like you dropped the ball on some poon. She invites you for a drink, you don't readily accept and next thing you know the ex is stayin over. Sounds like the broad was horny and wanted to eff.

On another note you are 26, grow some balls for cryin out loud. I consider myself a pretty sentimental bastard, but even I found myself cringing at your OP. MOVE ON.

[Los Feliz Slim]

OP,

This sucks. I used to take abuse from women like this, I totally remember what it was like. Ugh.

Get mad as hell and stop taking it. I bet you're a really nice guy and don't deserve this. What kind of person treats a nice guy like you like this? A bad person, that's who. Spend some time thinking about who YOU are - until you realize that you deserve better than this, you're doomed.

Move away, preferably another state. I'm not too fond of your parents either, btw, so I think getting away from them is a good idea. You need to prove to yourself that you're a badass, so you need to leave the nest and go through some challenges. Good luck.

Also: Boris, you're a meany.

[Boris]

lfs - I'm helping him get mad as hell. really, I'm just trying to help. I swear.

[captZEEbo]

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Furthermore, your parents must be either complete dicks or dead broke to rent a room to your ex-girlfriend, I don't get that one at all.

[/ QUOTE ]you're way off here. I think OP asked parents.

All the advice in the thread is pretty good. I think the big problem is just a general dry spell. I'd echo the sentiment of joining eharmony or jdate or something like that.

[Lonhro]

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Furthermore, your parents must be either complete dicks or dead broke to rent a room to your ex-girlfriend, I don't get that one at all.

[/ QUOTE ]you're way off here. I think OP asked parents.

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There's a little more to the story, of course - but no, it went down like this:

* break up with girl of 4 years
* not sure how long after but she moves in with new bf and lives for 2 years with him
* something goes down and she is saying to my mother after tutoring my sister that she needs to move, my mother suggests to move in out the back
* ex asks me if I'd be fine with it, I say yes because
1) I'm an idiot
2) I thought I had another shot

FWIW, they must come under the complete dicks option. I think at the time my mother thought she was doing me a favour as well, whatever.

I won't be doing any e-dating or anything like that, but thanks guys for all the rest of the responses - I am thoroughly p*ssed and p*ssed off right now. I'll probably go soft at some point but at least now I can see the light and when I see that b*tch I will think of everything you all said.