Kinda cheated on gf...bit of a moral dilemma.

[GimmickAccount#7]

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If my gf had some playtime my first thought would be that she is unhappy in the relationship, and I'd want to find out if that is true and get to the deeper issue.

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I'm sorry, but there's almost a 0% chance that "hmmm, she must be unhappy in the relationship" would be your first thought upon hearing the news that that she banged some random dude.

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I meant my first rational thought after the inevitable irrational period was over.

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Honestly, OP, you sound like someone who feels bad about cheating and is trying to justify it to himself. Not that it makes you unique.

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There may be some truth to this, although I honestly don't feel bad. I'm just trying to figure out what this all means to my relationship...

I'm no lostsoul, I've never cheated in the past. Like I said before I've had the opportunity and turned it down, so I'm wondering what has changed.

[GimmickAccount#7]

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There has to be a difference between if I mess around now vs if I mess around after we get married.

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You don't love this girl as much as you think you do, you should not marry her. This statement is so obvious (to me) in that you WANT it to be different, you want there to be a huge difference, so cheating now is 'OK'.

Man up and break up with her.

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To me your statement just seem ludicrous. I love my gf. We have an awesome relationship. People even tell me all the time "man you and xxx have a good thing going, I wish I could have a relationship like that, etc..." Bottom line is that breaking up with her and throw away 5 great years becuase I have some lustful urges and acted on them ONCE is pretty dumb in my book.

Anyway what you quoted was just me stating that marriage is the real deal and SHOULD make a difference in people's fidelity. Would I still want to bang other girls once I marry her? Yes. Will I act on it after we get married? No. Double no if we have kids.

[FastPlaySlow]

Albino lobster, with one claw missing.

I ate it.

p.s dont tell your gf

[boomshakalaka]

you just made out with the girl? Dont tell your girlfreind. But cut that crap out.

Theres a % that could be assigned to the chance she finds out, this number will never be known because there are too many factors, but there certainly is a number and its >0. So pretty much how long it takes for her to find out of if she finds out at all is just left up to variance. So even if she never finds out, you still hurt her, ducy?

[Zagga]

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Albino lobster, with one claw missing.

I ate it.

p.s dont tell your gf

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If there is one thing the davinci code thought me it is that albinos are evil. Good thing you ate it!

[Corpsebean]

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If my gf had some playtime my first thought would be that she is unhappy in the relationship, and I'd want to find out if that is true and get to the deeper issue.

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[Corpsebean]

BTW, as for the rest of your post I think you are being amazingly dishonest with yourself.

Good luck man, I hope things work out for you.

[TinderWall]

To those saying cheating is wrong because if she found out she'd be hurt, well, does that mean thinking your wife/girlfriend is getting fat is wrong? She'd be upset if she ever found out. Okay, so thinking and doing are different, sure. Is jacking off to donkey porn behind her back wrong? I know my girlfriend would be upset if she ever found out about my extensive horse porn masturbation obsession, but I'm going to keep doing it because I like it damnit.

I'm just wondering if everyone thinks full disclosure about everything is good once you're married, or if people think you need to keep some things to yourself. Or if you're supposed to not do anything that upsets your wife, regardless of what it is.

[LuisV]

I don't understand your comparison. I think you should be honest about donkeyporn. It's just what guys do. And if your girlfriend is getting fat she shouldn't be your girlfriend anymore.

Also, I think the guilt fades very very easy.

[CPHoya]

1. Don't say anything.
2. At least [censored] if you're going to cheat.
3. ???
4. Profit.

Also don't act like an idiot if you "love her." Thems the rules.

Don't get married.