how to do a player cross transfer, site to site, a trade?

[PLOlover]

say I have money on stars only and you have money on party only, and we want to trade money.

I post I have stars and want party money, and you respond.
Who should xfer first?

What's the informal rule here?

[PLOlover]

informal rule, procedure, way things are done, polite thing, historical way thing is done,

what word am I looking for here btw?

[cardcounter0]

the informal rule is you don't post this trade crap stuff here it only encourgaes the scammers and beggars to start coming here.

[PLOlover]

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the informal rule is you don't post this trade crap stuff here it only encourgaes the scammers and beggars to start coming here.

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That's my point kind of. If someone posts or PM's or whatever, if they initiate it, then they should expect to do the first transfer, right? Otherwise it's just too likely to be a scam.

etiquette that's the word I was looking for.

[ltcuoi]

The rules of thumb is to transfer at the same time.

[PLOlover]

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The rules of thumb is to transfer at the same time.

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Isn't that equivalent to going first? I guess you're saying only deal with people you know and trust?