out of my elemt - married woman coming on strong(!)?

[microbet]

It doesn't seem like there's anything wrong with it. They are HER vows afterall.

Still, as a married man...

[Namdrahsirhc]

This is actually a funny coincidence, as i have a story about a married woman cheating.

My friend is in a band. He just found out that the guitarist was sleeping with the singer's wife. The singer apparently found out because she left her myspace up and he read the messages that this guy sent her.

The retaliation: They schedule band practice as usual and then beat the [censored] outa the guitarist when he gets there (my friend declined to do this) and the guy is in the hospital with 3 broken ribs and a concussion.

My advice: stay away

[one_eye_mike]

There is nothing good that can come from getting involved with someone married. You'll feel like [censored] afterwords. There's tons of single women your age I'm sure so why bother.

[johnbeans]

If the only thing that's stopping CFSG from cheating on her husband is you giving in or not to her advances then their relationship is crap anyways. If you don't have any moral objection to potentially destroying a marriage and possibly ruining some guy's life then go for the gold. With that said,

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There is nothing good that can come from getting involved with someone married. You'll feel like [censored] afterwords. There's tons of single women your age I'm sure so why bother.

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[traz]

If OP doesn't do it, some other guy will

[admiralfluff]

First of all, getting caught by the husband and beaten does not register as a legitimate concern. Maybe I'm wrong, but it just seems incredibly unlikely that he would:

A: catch on over the next 2 days.
and
B: (given A) be able to find me.
and
C: (given B) take violent retalliatory actions against me.

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There is nothing good that can come from getting involved with someone married.

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She's cool, and I'm attracted to her. Having sex with cool girls I'm attracted to is a good thing.

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You'll feel like [censored] afterwords.

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Only if she starts crying while I'm still there. meh. Worth the risk. She's a big girl, and if she wants to, it's not really any of my business to say she shouldn't.

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There's tons of single women your age I'm sure so why bother.

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Because it's there.


The main purpose of this thread isn't to get help deciding whether or not I want to pursue this, but rather *how* I should.

This doesn't feel like a shoe-in. Was my e-mail response good? What should I expect from her, and what will she expct from me? Do people go out on dates when they start affairs/flings/whatever, or do they just get into it (i.e., if she does call me back, do I ask her to have dinner with me, or to come to my hotel room)?

I'm 23 and she's 29. I've never been involved with a significantly older woman, let alone a married one, and apart from flirting and establishing initial interest, I'm lost.

[FishNChips]

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If OP doesn't do it, some other guy will

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likely true, but doesn't make it right.

OP - Married women really should be off limits.

~FishNChips

[Aloysius]

Admiral - I very rarely condone things like this, but you seem like a cool guy and the chance of the husband finding out is so slim... sounds like you are doing well and I advise you to keep up the good work and hit that not only for yourself, but for OOT (post pics!)

Godspeed,
-Al

[zephed]

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First of all, getting caught by the husband and beaten does not register as a legitimate concern. Maybe I'm wrong, but it just seems incredibly unlikely that he would:

A: catch on over the next 2 days.
and
B: (given A) be able to find me.
and
C: (given B) take violent retalliatory actions against me.


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He could very easily find out who you are and where you live if she tells him. I guess at this point she doesn't know either though. If you continue banging her, she will eventually know these things. So I suggest banging her, killing her, then dumping her body in a river.

[Bluffoon]

She just wants to have some fun and escape whatever dreary existence the is living.

I'd ask her if she wants to go out for bite to eat or if she wants to come over and watch a movie. She may not want to be out on your arm in public too much. Let her decide and take it from there.

I don't think yo u need to worry much about courtship.

Enjoy you lucky bastard!