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06-07-2007, 09:20 AM
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What does your relationship with your mother mean?
This often pops up in the relationship threads and I think it's worthy of one of its own, what do relationships with your mothers as young male adults mean?
For example my mother is quite introverted i'm very extroverted. My mother is very loving in here affection when i'm around but for example when I lived overseas she wouldn't call more than once a month at most and I would never call her, she also rarely says I love you. Does this mean anything? Contrast this with my attitudes on women, I basically have never met a women I think is intelligent. I definitely view them as below me. However I think my mum is very very smart actually perhaps the only person i've ever met who is more intelligent than myself. OOT please analyse me from this very small snippet of my life. But I would also be interested at how other peoples relationships with their mothers (perhaps a father relationship thread could be seperated) effect them. 
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#2
06-07-2007, 09:26 AM
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Re: What does your relationship with your mother mean?
FWIW, I have found that, as a girlfriend, all guys have treated me very similarly to how they treat their mother. For example, a guy may be* superficially nice but when anything unpleasant comes up, he turns mean and condescending. If a guy acts as if his mother is a retard and I completely disagree with him, that is generally my sign to run.
Of course, take this insight with a grain of salt as I am an inferior female. * - Edited for clarity
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#3
06-07-2007, 09:34 AM
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Re: What does your relationship with your mother mean?
That's an interesting one because we always hear that men are looking for women like there mother, which actually totally conflicts with me i've always been interested in asian women and i'm thoroughly white.
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#4
06-07-2007, 10:09 AM
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Re: What does your relationship with your mother mean?
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FWIW, I have found that, as a girlfriend, all guys have treated me very similarly to how they treat their mother. For example, a guy may be* superficially nice but when anything unpleasant comes up, he turns mean and condescending. If a guy acts as if his mother is a retard and I completely disagree with him, that is generally my sign to run. [/ QUOTE ] I treat my mother like someone I love, who frequently annoys me. Her annoying qualities are very 'mommish' - frets over / obsessed with stupid things, constant, low-key nagger, always notices what I regard as the least important details first (I used to joke that I could tell her I was dying of cancer and she'd ask why I couldn't dying-of-cancer my dirty laundry out of the bathroom), is kind of a drag on my jokes / conversation. (This is just what annoys me. She still rules.) I do not treat girls like my mother because I would not date my mother, or anyone like her. Filtering process goes a little like this. Cardo: sly witticism Girl: (wooooooooosh) Cardo: nonplussed, tries again Girl: (woooooooooosh, big confused smile) Cardo: (marks this one down in red ink, strolls over to punch bowl)
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#5
06-07-2007, 10:56 AM
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Re: What does your relationship with your mother mean?
amplify: sly witticism
girl: witty retort amplify: brilliant metaphor girl: apt literary reference amplify: you remind me of my mother girl: does that mean you dont want a BJ? sorry, fantasizing...
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#6
06-07-2007, 11:32 AM
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Re: What does your relationship with your mother mean?
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FWIW, I have found that, as a girlfriend, all guys have treated me very similarly to how they treat their mother. [/ QUOTE ] Out of curiosity, any relationships where the mother had any sorts of problems? I ask becasue I hope this isn't true about me. My mother always did very well for me in providing and exposing me to opportunities. She handled all the "obligations" of being a mother with aplomb; I've come to realize this was about her appearance as a mother. When it came to any of what would be considered mothering in an emotional state, it was basically subject to her (undiagnosed) depression/mood swings. She would often take things out on me. Id say I still treat my mother well, but its hard to find many warm moments to draw upon. It certainly not a relationship I'd like to repeat with a girlfriend. I hope its not a 'doomed to repeat" situation.
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#9
06-07-2007, 03:40 PM
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Re: What does your relationship with your mother mean?
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My mom posts on 2p2 [/ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] Basically, his Mom doesn't take any BS. So, any views on the effects of living with an assertive Mom? [/ QUOTE ] Am I getting this genealogy right?
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#10
06-07-2007, 03:52 PM
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Re: What does your relationship with your mother mean?
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[ QUOTE ] My mom posts on 2p2 [/ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] Basically, his Mom doesn't take any BS. So, any views on the effects of living with an assertive Mom? [/ QUOTE ] Am I getting this genealogy right? [/ QUOTE ] Nope.
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