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#51
07-06-2006, 05:07 PM
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Re: She left me
Wow that sucks. You say you want to try and fix things. But in my view some words once spoken can never be taken back. After her saying she didn't feel comfortable being touched by you, do you honestly think you could resume a loving husband/wife relationship with her?
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#52
07-06-2006, 05:10 PM
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Re: She left me
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I suggest hiring a PI to follow her around for a bit. If she's having an affair, it won't take long for it to be discovered. [/ QUOTE ] OOT suggested this 6 weeks ago. He didn't listen then, he's probably not going to now either.
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#53
07-06-2006, 05:15 PM
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Re: She left me
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[ QUOTE ] I suggest hiring a PI to follow her around for a bit. If she's having an affair, it won't take long for it to be discovered. [/ QUOTE ] OOT suggested this 6 weeks ago. He didn't listen then, he's probably not going to now either. [/ QUOTE ] Hopefully the recent events have pulled him out of the denial he was suffering 6 weeks ago.
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#54
07-06-2006, 05:22 PM
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Re: She left me
You're bummed, understably. You need to do the following things:
1) contact a lawyer. 2) either move to a new place or clean out your existing place into a fresh slate for starting fresh. 3) don't let her push you around. right now it's all "she left me, she said this, she said that." it won't happen in an instant, but you need to change it to "we separated. we weren't right for each other. i'm moving on." 4) you need to work really hard at not getting depressed. feeling sad is one thing. but you need to exercise regularly, get out of the house more, etc. 5) realize that you're still only 29. you are at, in my opinion, the prime age to meet good women. women who are in their mid-20s, young professionals, out of college, are looking to meet men just like you. you're older. you're experienced. if, after some inevitable feeling down time, you're able to keep a very positive attitude, you are going to be MONEY.
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#57
07-06-2006, 05:27 PM
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Re: She left me
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this post made me sad [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img] [/ QUOTE ] it is sad because: a) she is definitely cheating on you b) you are in denial (just like i was, pretty much exact same situation, minus the marriage) as [censored] as it is, you're gonna have to learn to accept it and move on.
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#58
07-06-2006, 05:29 PM
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Re: She left me
Sorry Man, maybe it's lame, but you have all our support.
Best, Matty
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#59
07-06-2006, 05:32 PM
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Re: She left me
[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] I suggest hiring a PI to follow her around for a bit. If she's having an affair, it won't take long for it to be discovered. [/ QUOTE ] OOT suggested this 6 weeks ago. He didn't listen then, he's probably not going to now either. [/ QUOTE ] Hopefully the recent events have pulled him out of the denial he was suffering 6 weeks ago. [/ QUOTE ] I don't really want to argue about it dude, and I appreciate that you're trying to help. But actually this turn of events makes me more willing to believe that she is not cheating on me. The fact that there was some huge lurking darkness in her heart explains why she was pushing this issue and having inappropriate relationships. It seems most likely to me that she just wanted to create some kind of drama so she could bring this up. I don't think she did this consciously. Also, I think she would just tell me at this point if she did cheat on me. Nevertheless you may be right. I don't think it's very productive to try and find out exactly what happened. If she cheated on me, we have no chance, and sooner or later I'll find out. I'd rather just try to deal with her as someone I want to stay with forever...If that changes, so be it. LORD what a dramaqueen...it's like freaking Oedipus Rex around here...! The usual placebos are having no effect...porn, scrippas, gamboling, booze...all useless...I guess I'll go play basketball for a few hours... Anyway, thanks for your comments y'all. Thanks for the kind PMs too. One upside: If she calls it quits before July 27st I can sell the car and hitchhike to the ME... Degenerately --GA
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#60
07-06-2006, 05:36 PM
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Nevertheless you may be right. I don't think it's very productive to try and find out exactly what happened [/ QUOTE ] aren't the legal/financial implications of an affair VERY important in the case that you two do get divorced?
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