My Wife's New "Buddy"

[ChipWrecked]

Maybe the three of you should go skinny-dipping together, with some other friends.

[lastchance]

Well, you also need to explain why she does it, all of this stuff. Instead of talking about it with 2+2 nerds, talk about this crap with your wife.

[Leo99]

Your wife needs more attention. She's either gonna get it from you or the buddy. Less poker, more wife.

[321Mike]

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Your wife needs more attention. She's either gonna get it from you or the buddy. Less poker, more wife

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Take it from the divorced guy: you need to address your relationship with your wife. Her online relationship is just a sign that she's looking for something she isn't getting from you.

Reading about this is giving me flashbacks. I didn't worry when my (now) ex-wife started chatting online. I thought she was chatting with friends in Puerto Rico. Later, she forgets to log out and I start getting IM's from some guy in Puerto Rico. It was in Spanish (she's bilingual, I'm not), but I understood enough. Once, I came down a little from the jealous rage, I realized that I had totally missed about a year's worth of hints that she wasn't getting what she needed from me. She had never met this guy in person, but he meant more to her at that point than I did.

Don't miss this opportunity to set things right. Be totally honest and talk to her about it. And get some counseling.

[oreopimp]

You know funny story...didnt read all the way through so dont know if u put your foot down or not.

Anyway when I was going out with my ex (we got together in high school and made it 5 years) anyway about a year after high school this email thing between her and a guy we both knew in high school...(who was nerdy-ish and I was pretty sure had a big infatuation with her) started up. It continued for a little while and while she kept up "we are just friends bit" I knew the reason he kept emailing her, etc...so I basically said, "you seriously need to stop it, whether u realize it or not, he is intrested in you and if possible would like to be more than friends." --- anyway she did and we went on happily until our relationship fizzled out to its natural end.

But guess who she started emailing after we broke upand is married to now? Which boggles my mind as shes hotter than Scarlett Johnnasen (in fact she would be the hotter twin sister...seriously they almost look alike its not funny) and this guy should have no chance, and up to when they got together had never even been kissed by a woman (all in our early 20s). Anyway, hope they are doing well, regardless.

[phil_ivey_fan]

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Definitely read the emails.

Then put a stop to it. If she's looking to friendster for emotional companionship then something is seriously lacking in your relationship.

I bet she is 'cheating' in the physical sense. And, once an illegitimate child is developed between the two of them you will become expendable to her.

PG

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FYP

[Jay.]

She obviously searched Male Only. So her actions so far, go to a website to meet males while her husband watches tv. Search through a bunch of guys. Finds the BEST ONE out of them. BEST ONE being whatever she judges that on, in the trend of women, most important is looks. Exchanges emails with him etc etc.

Yea, here is what you do, 'i think you're a bitch for searching for guys online. stop it.' add a few more words at your own wishing, but has to be to that effect. Then give her whatever attention she is lacking to make her search.

Any women who believes guys have female 'friends' is silly.

[Hopey]

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jake?

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This probably explains how he developed that coke habit a few months ago.

[vetman81]

Just thought I would add my two cents. My mom started doing this about a year and a half ago. A couple months later she was cheating on my dad, a couple months after that they filed for divorced and it is now final, after 25 years of marriage. Follow Dominic's advice and put an end to it now.

[Felix_Nietzsche]

Seriously - this is not behaviour a married man or woman should be doing. At all.
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I agree. You got problems my friend.....


but I believe in nipping problems like this in the bud, before they evolve into bigger problems.
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Yep.......


But what your wife is doing is unacceptable. Certainly as unacceptable as if you were contacting a strange female online. While her motives may be strictly innocent (doubtful but possible) - his motives are certainly not.
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Yep.....if you were contacting other chicks, I doubt she would be so understanding.


Granted, your wife may not be getting what she needs from you emotionally - if that's the case, she needs to tell you so and you can discuss and solves things as a couple.
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I heard a joke that when men cheat, it is because they are pigs. When women cheat it is because they are 'emotional neglected'. Your wife KNOWS she is doing something wrong and her tactic of showing you was to sooth her feelings of guilt. This guy wants to [censored] your wife and she is digging the attention.... I would tell her you are not happy with this. If she has problems with the marriage, then she should SPEAK UP. Contacting other guys online is something that SINGLE WOMEN DO...not married women. You also need to look at yourself, have you been taking her for granted? Are you being a wimp towards her? Something in your behavior (or lack of behavior) is contributing to this.