She left me

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The same thing happened to my uncle. My aunt met some doofus online and she married him and divorced my uncle.

[4Kings]

Sorry to hear about your situation. I have been in a somewhat simalar situation and from my experience it sounds like she probably has someone else (come on, friends online?). Don't lie to yourself. You know she is lying. You will spend countless hours and lose lots of sleep trying to make sense of it all and you'll never figure it out because the simple truth is hard to accept. To be honest with you, I really hope I am wrong and evrything works itself out for you.

[27offsuit]

Your soon-to-be ex sounds like a real f*cking c*nt.

Seriously.




Edit: Initiate the divorce proceedings on the grounds of emotional abandonment. Again, I'm serious. I empathize.

[redickulous]

If your really fealing down just go and buy Rounders and a bottle of ur fav. alcohol and get hammered. I would take teh next day off tho if you got a real job. u deserve it, bitches these days. but if it was me i would go with DrewDevils' advice.

[/ QUOTE ] Practical stuff first: close all accounts, credit cards, etc. that you hold jointly with your wife. Empty them and put them into new accounts that you alone hold. Do this asap, or she will.

Personal now: I've been through a divorce and it was the worst experience of my life, even though I was the one who wanted the divorce. I agree that you should try to avoid it, but remember that there are alot of fish in the sea.
It seems pretty obvious she wants to date & have sex with other guys. Is there any way you could allow this to happen and stay married? Either "take a break from your vows" (both of you) or try having an "open marriage"? I'm not saying this is a good idea (AT ALL), but it might be better than divorce, for both of you.

Edit: Of course, I'm sure most people would rather get divorced than "allow" their spouse to have sex with anyone else. I AGREE



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He probaly has a bright future. GL with ur situation. holla

[Quicksilvre]

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She told me she didn’t feel comfortable being touched by me.

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man, this line just kills me. I am really sorry for all this and hope you find peace.

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This is the toughest thing I've read in a long time.

GP: It's been mentioned before, but make sure you have a good hold of your assets (whatever they may be) and get a lawyer. You'll have to prepare for the worst. I realize how painful it is to you, but I think the sooner you start constructing a life in which she plays a smaller part, the better.

[fleece_me]

Been in 4 relationships like this and everytime she was cheating.

You will be bitter for a long time.

Your relationship isn't different, sacred or special. It is not unique. She is acting like almost every other woman I've ever known.

In 2 years you will regret not posting her picture and a link to her friendster account.

I've been there and you are [censored]. You are blinded by your low self esteem and the belief that you will never be with someone as hot as her again.

Your parents are probably divorced and you have abandonment issues and attachment disorders.

I feel sorry for you but you aren't making this any better by being so [censored] naive about it. You are brainwashed bud, and that just makes it worse for you.

Go ahead - fight for her. Love is worth dying for, haven't you heard?

LOL.

You aren't that far away from killing yourself IMO. Especially if you ever find out the truth about her behavior and just how sanctimonious she really is about your "marriage".

Now go see about that girl.

[skunkworks]

Hello, my friends.

To the few of you classless folks calling GA's wife a c***, or telling GA himself that he's a few steps from suicide (thank you, armchair psychologist), you're really not very good at giving advice or condolences.

[fleece_me]

Update please. Just because we all know the ending doesn't mean we don't want to watch the two trains before they collide.

[oreopimp]

I say fight man. If you guys can both be honest with each other, do whatever you can.

With my ex, I had been carrying baggage from the past that I never worked on that kept me from taking the extra step in the emotional department, the love department. I hadnt been as open as I should have, and for whatever reason I was depressed for a while...so it started feeding off of each other and then one day, she was ready to leave. I loved her enough that I looked at my problems, determined they could be fixed, walls broken down. But she was pretty much finished, there was no happy ending (a couple months later, her an my friend started dating which was v awkward for a while). But thats not the point.

I still at least know, even though she still left, that I tried. I tried as [censored] hard as I could, but her mind was kind of made up, and she was confused as I seemed v different than before, a complete 180. This happened back in april, I still love her v much, and I have not known any pain like losing someone you loved and made mistakes with that you wish you could take back. that is some pain and depression that was forgein to me (I rarely get stuck on a girl when things are over, so this was [censored] with my head).

But I tried, I looked deep, changed a lot about myself for the better (and for the future), and I dont regret it at all. I regret that things didnt go the way I wanted, and it still hurts. But if I just let her go, Id probably kill myself. Fight, put all you can into it. If it works and you guys develop a stronger bond and find intense happiness, it would be so worth it.