My Wife's New "Buddy"

[chucksim]

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I'm not so good at confrontation.

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Looks like you're going to have to get good at it in a hurry. Go with your gut. If you mean anything to her, it won't hurt in the long run.

[phage]

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A quote: I don't want to be in the kind of relationship where my husband demands to read my email!


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A preemptive strike on her part. You are now open to this sort of defensive move wherein you will be made to feel bad about your concerns. I think you will be hearing a lot of ..."I hate this jealousy", "Don't you trust me" etc.

[Boris]

I agree.

[bernie]

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Meet hot guy's or girls. 'Meet attached women looking for discreet relationships'.

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That's a Google Ad and not part of Frienster, I think. Try the "tour".

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It's their homepage where you sign up. Type in 'friendster.com' Then read the page. Once you get into the tour, it can look a little more innocent, but they don't really mention that on the initial page.

Now compare that to myspace's homepage. There's nothing really about 'dating' or meeting for 'discreet encounters'.

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[CollinEstes]

Here is what I would want to say to her...

"If you want to continue sending emails to this guy that is fine, but I just think it sucks that you would choose something so trival and meaningless over the feelings of your husband."

[jakethebake]

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I'm not so good at confrontation.

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If you don't get good at it pretty quick, you're going to come home for lunch one day and have to confront his ass staring back at you from between your wife's legs.

[mason55]

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Meet hot guy's or girls. 'Meet attached women looking for discreet relationships'.

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That's a Google Ad and not part of Frienster, I think. Try the "tour".

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It's their homepage where you sign up. Type in 'friendster.com' Then read the page. Once you get into the tour, it can look a little more innocent, but they don't really mention that on the initial page.

Now compare that to myspace's homepage. There's nothing really about 'dating' or meeting for 'discreet encounters'.

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Those are ads for other sites. Friendster doesn't have control over them. They work just like Google ads.

[CollinEstes]

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A quote: I don't want to be in the kind of relationship where my husband demands to read my email!


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A preemptive strike on her part. You are now open to this sort of defensive move wherein you will be made to feel bad about your concerns. I think you will be hearing a lot of ..."I hate this jealousy", "Don't you trust me" etc.

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yep how is it that women can do something that causes men pain and still make the whole situation out to be about them?

[Pyromaniac]

Of course you did [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

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I don't want to be in the kind of relationship where my husband demands to read my email!


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This was, unfortunately, predictable.

Here's my take on it. You've got a marriage/relationship problem here.

The good news is, It's not about this guy she's emailing. He's just the symptom.

The bad news is, The problem's been there for awhile now. Communication, trust, intimacy, partnership, any/all/more of these.

I'd suggest that you work hard to separate these two things...and try to focus on the real problems. Don't let her make this about to be about "your hangup with her geek-internet-friend"...that's just the surface issue. What this is really about is what others have already said...why was she doing this in the first place? Why did she wait a month or more to tell you, and why is she telling you now, anyway?

You don't really know the answer to these questions, and that's part of the problem.

[warsaw]

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