She left me

[MatthewRyan]

GA- it sounds to me like you still want to be with her in the future, yet she lacks passion and desire for you.
So, you must make her want you, and desire you like she first did in your relationship. You need to make her attracted to you once again.

I think we both know that someone who is depressed with low self esteem is never, never, never going to win back the interest, attraction and love of any girl.

If you really want her back you will have to pick yourself up and act like a man with a purpose in his life. Stay strong and make sure you're having a good time. Essentially act the way you did when you too first met.

You can choose to be desirable or to be miserable, its up to.

goodluck,
Matt

[The DaveR]

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the breakup is still ongoing in that we're broken up and she can't move out til 8/1, but it is not nasty really. Although, 5 minutes ago I yelled at her for having no respect for our 7 year relationship by dating guys 2 days after we broke up and that she's screwing up her life bouncing from guy to guy.

OK, its a little nasty.

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That's pretty tame for you.

[Vehn]

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That's pretty tame for you.

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WHAT ARE YOU SAYING

[PartyGirlUK]

No wisdom from me, just sympathies and best wishes.

Dean

[Jeffage]

Georgia,

I don't have much to add but I just wanted to wish you luck with everything. It's tough and I really hope it works out for you - just keep the faith, I'm sure you are a good person and in the end you will hopefully look at this as a rough chapter before you find happiness. Life can be very hard and sometimes you have to fight - stand up for yourself and try not to beat yourself up over things you can't change.

Good luck man.

Jeff

[chopstick]

Just read the first two threads and then this one.

I'm sorry you are going through this painful experience. Having your wife come to you with a final decision like this has an impact that is extremely jarring at best, and emotionally devastating at worst. This is compounded by it being a surprise, and her having made this decision with what feels to you like little to none of your input affecting her decision.

I am sorry you are going through this. I agree with the posters who suggested finding a lawyer to walk you through the divorce process. This is going to affect you for a long time, and it is best to start moving forward with your life as soon as possible - including moving through the stages of the grieving process. After the divorce process is moving along, I suggest taking some time to talk to a therapist, preferably one trained in dealing with these situations.

You will get through this.

[astroglide]

gl dude

[RED FACE]

Was she abused as a child? Did her father abuse her mother? Did she have a father? Other than the current situation does she strike you as caring more about others or more about herself(you must choose one)?

I'm just wondering if she is screwed up in some significant way or simply selfish.

Anyway, you can't control another human so focus on controlling yourself. Strength and honor.

[Tilt]

Georgia,

The rest of your life is NOT over. I can almost guarantee you that sometime in the next few years you will be HAPPIER than you were with this woman who checked out on you years ago. Survive the next year and you will have 50+ great ones ahead of you. In the end, this will be good for you. Make it that way. Do what you need to do to feel good about yourself again and get past this.

As for this relationship, it really seems like its over. If its not, its still not something you want to invest more of your youth into. Let her go. Better yet, serve her with papers. Then pick up your dog and move on.

I'm sympathetic, but having been the seriously jilted one before I can tell you that wallowing in it is a dangerous path.

[KDawg]

GA, I really don't have much advice to give you on this. I'd just say that you should get this resolved as quickly as possible and do you best to start anew. I hope the best for you