When you have a daughter....

[Gunny Highway]

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I had an authoritarian father too, by the way, probably more authoritarian than yours, who built up zero relationship with me, so I know where you're coming from on that. And I've got my own set of very real problems from that. But whereas his mistakes taught me some things to avoid, that doesn't mean I have confused having strong standards or being strict with a lack of respect, or love, for your children, nor do I find giving kids whatever they want, or whatever other kids have, to have the slightest bit to do with how much you love them.

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I had an authoritarian father but not at all cold or distant. He wasn't excessively brutal or anything. I was really just comparing a balance of two parents with very differing styles to that of two parents that are both nearer the middle. And whether one way might be better than the other. Some thing like this:

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vs.

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Both are balanced but different.