Female on Paxil, Things have changed

[Clarkmeister]

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OK here is/WAS the plan. Last night I was going to trade her mardi gras beads for a kiss but the opportunity did not present itself. I already have plans made with her for this weekend. As we have been discussing things and she has said (jokingly but at the same time with a tinge of seriousness) "I think you're just devious, and wouldn't be friends with me if you weren't trying to get laid" (Which is at least partly true...I doubt I would remain close with her if there 0.00% chance of any action at all)

So my plan was to take this line of reasoning, and get her in here Friday/Saturday night, and at one of the moments when we are particularly close (eg she is leaning over me to use my computer or something like that) say "Can I do something devious?" 'What do you mean?' "I want to kiss you" or something along those lines. Gives her the opportunity to say "ehh no" and get outta here for pushing the question when I'm supposed to be giving her time without actually making a physical move on her (Which i would consider to be a dick move) but also the opportunity for things to start in motion.

That WAS the plan.

She has decided she is going to get tested for mono tomorrow. Whether she gets tested or not, assuming the results won't be back before Friday night, what is my play if she says "i might have mono, thats a bad idea" ??? I had it all planned out in a way that i thought was still being pushy (and carries a great risk/reward) but better than sitting around twiddling my thumbs, and now this mono [censored] is going to interfere?

It's spring break next week, so this is my last chance to establish myself physically with the setup I have after a week of spending extensive amounts of time with her before we possibly don't even speak for a week (conversely, we could cement our plans to meet up, which are thin at best as of right now).

What's my play given the mono testing situation?[i] Assumption for repy posters: She does not actually have mono and is just her usual tired self. She has gotten tested at least 3 times in the past for mono which she is always scared she has, due to her extreme tiredness at all times. All times the result was negative, and I am fairly sure this time is no different.[i/i]

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arrrrrrrrghhhhhhhhhh. Brain hurts. Bang girl now.

[Clarkmeister]

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"I think you're just devious, and wouldn't be friends with me if you weren't trying to get laid"

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Oh, btw, that's your cue.

[Dominic]

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"I think you're just devious, and wouldn't be friends with me if you weren't trying to get laid"

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Oh, btw, that's your cue.

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LOL...so true.

Seriously...she is so expecting you to deny this, that if you just came out and said, " Of course I want to get laid! I'm a guy! I want to have sex with YOU! You should be flattered!," she'd be so flummoxed I lay you 2-1 she'd instantly see you as desirable.

Remember...there is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to someone and letting her know it. Nothing! It's a compliment!

[Blarg]

Gotta agree. Why hide it? It's not like girls are stupid anyway. They know we wanna bone them. Pretending any different is just weird for both of you and not very flattering to her.

[zephed]

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OK here is/WAS the plan. Last night I was going to trade her mardi gras beads for a kiss but the opportunity did not present itself. I already have plans made with her for this weekend. As we have been discussing things and she has said (jokingly but at the same time with a tinge of seriousness) "I think you're just devious, and wouldn't be friends with me if you weren't trying to get laid"

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God this girl is nice. She set you up perfectly. You should have admitted it!!!!

Don't you know how wet that'd get her? Damn man. Ugh. I'm trying to live vicariously through you, give me a little joy in life.

[zephed]

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So my plan was to take this line of reasoning, and get her in here Friday/Saturday night, and at one of the moments when we are particularly close (eg she is leaning over me to use my computer or something like that) say "Can I do something devious?" 'What do you mean?' "I want to kiss you" or something along those lines. Gives her the opportunity to say "ehh no" and get outta here for pushing the question when I'm supposed to be giving her time without actually making a physical move on her (Which i would consider to be a dick move) but also the opportunity for things to start in motion.


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[censored] man, don't say anything, just do. Do it. Grab her ass, touch her sides, kiss her neck, SOMETHING! Don't [censored] ask her though, that's lame and it isn't exciting for her. Don't give her a way out either. Women are typically passive in intimate encounters so they are expecting you to make the move. If they have to do it, it's not exciting to them.

You have an angle here though, now that she's complaining about being tired. Tell her you are going to give her a nice relaxing back rub and to lay on her stomach on the bed. Tell her she MUST have her shirt off so you are able to do a proper massage (that's bs, you are just trying to touch her and turn her on).

[Slow Play Ray]

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OK here is/WAS the plan. Last night I was going to trade her mardi gras beads for a kiss but the opportunity did not present itself.

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this is all i read. forget it, i think you're [censored] hopeless.

[Magellan]

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at one of the moments when we are particularly close (eg she is leaning over me to use my computer or something like that) say "Can I do something devious?" 'What do you mean?' "I want to kiss you" or something along those lines. Gives her the opportunity to say "ehh no"

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You take this line and you're destined to crash and burn. [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img]

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Don't [censored] ask her though, that's lame and it isn't exciting for her. Don't give her a way out either.

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You have practically been given a green light here:

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I think you're just devious, and wouldn't be friends with me if you weren't trying to get laid.

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Women don't say this sort of thing jokingly to guys that have no intention of [censored]. (If she said it while throwing a vase at your head, different story.) An appropriate response would have been something along the lines of "Yeah and I've put in the hard yards, I'm about to stop asking and start taking!".

If you want to be succesful in this situation you are going to have to take a risk. Assuming she shoots you down, who cares whether it was after you boldly put the moves on her, or after you limply asked "Err...ummm....can we hold hands?". You absolutely have to be assertive here. You won't turn her on by wussing around nervously.

Have another read of the advice you are getting in this thread, it is not from people setting you up to fail for a laugh, it really is some good advice.

Final thought: You have told her numerous times you want her. She knows you want her. She is joking about the fact that you want to get into her pants. If she really needed time to work out whether she wants your cock, she wouldn't be spending that time getting drunk with you.

For the sake of everyone who has tried to help you in this thread STEP UP AND GIVE THIS GIRL WHAT SHE NEEDS MAN!!!

[Magellan]

Calling DB, I think this man could use your pussy/lion sequence right now.

[tuq]

Wha? Is it normal to be tested that many times for mono? Hypochondriac much?

Also, what everyone else said. You remind me painfully of myself at your age. Paralysis by overanalysis. Fear of rejection. Not good man.