help me OOT: I like my friend's gf and don't know how to deal with it

[foobar37]

Blarg,

I'm definitely learning a bunch of life lessons from this experience, and I freely admit that I acted very immaturely. The guy is a little pissed at me right now, and I agree it's completely justified. In the following situation though, what was I supposed to do?

A group of us were staying at a hotel, and the two of them had a huge fight, audible in my room. The guy left, and the girl came into my room crying (my roommate was gone). Was I supposed to turn her away? The other situations where she revealed things to me were similar; they fought more or less in front of me, then I was stuck alone with the girl.

Still though, there were many other aspects of this whole situation where I had a choice and made a bad one, so I would place the blame at like 90% me, 10% her, 0% him.


Mr. P,

Meh, I don't really blame him for telling her. This situation is probably hardest on him, and he did nothing to deserve it, so I'm willing to cut him some slack. Also, I'm at least ethical enough that I won't pursue her in any way while she is still with my friend.