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04-24-2007, 02:39 AM
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Re: Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring
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I am attempting to advise a good friend on a developing relationship he is having with a girl he's crazy about. They currently spend about 5-6 nights per week together but have separate places. They both are talking very seriously about moving in together. The difference of opinion however lies in the issue of being engaged. While my friend definitely foresees marrying this girl if things continue to progress at the rate they have (they've been together a little under a year), he's not sure he wants to go out and buy a ring just now. She, on the other hand, has said there is no rush to get engaged, but that she won't move in under any circumstances if they are not engaged. [/ QUOTE ] Just dont talk about moving in again. If hes not sure about getting engaged yet, and she wont budge on this, its seems kind of pointless. Or if she mentions not moving in without a ring (especially if you didnt bring it up) dont fight her, just say "Ah you're so cute" turn back to watching whatever movie you were watching and dont bring it up again. I didnt say this is good advice, Id just like to see something like that go down. Then again, it depends how unreasonable she is in other areas, does she budge or comprimise a lot, or is she the type that always puts her foot down...if shes the latter, then I like the above advice. But since shes not rushed about getting engaged, which is good, the above is probably best remained a social experiement Id like to see in action. 
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#23
04-24-2007, 10:26 AM
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Re: Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring
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Wow, nothing says romance like forcing the dude into getting a ring. [/ QUOTE ] She's not forcing him to do anything. She just doesn't want to move in with him unless they are engaged.
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#24
04-24-2007, 10:44 AM
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Re: Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring
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[ QUOTE ] Wow, nothing says romance like forcing the dude into getting a ring. [/ QUOTE ] She's not forcing him to do anything. She just doesn't want to move in with him unless they are engaged. [/ QUOTE ] "I'm in no hurry to get engaged" and "I'm not moving in without being engaged" sounds like polite-speak for "I'm not as far along in this relationship as you are."
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#25
04-24-2007, 10:48 AM
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Re: Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring
This is a goofy discussion with a lot of people projecting their own values/needs/wants onto somebody else who obvious doesn't think the same way.
Personally, I think living together before getting married is probably a good idea, but I'm not going to try and suggest that that's the only way things should be done.
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#27
04-24-2007, 11:01 AM
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Re: Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring
My girlfriend and I have been talking about marriage a lot lately. She doesn't want to move in together before then and I agree with her view on the subject. The moving in for the first time is part of the new adventure of a married couple. Otherwise there is no real difference then one day you both came back with new jewelry on, not that special.
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#28
04-24-2007, 11:07 AM
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Re: Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring
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My girlfriend and I have been talking about marriage a lot lately. She doesn't want to move in together before then and I agree with her view on the subject. The moving in for the first time is part of the new adventure of a married couple. Otherwise there is no real difference then one day you both came back with new jewelry on, not that special. [/ QUOTE ] Too funny coming out of the mouth of a single dude. WTF do people feel the need to constantly talk out of their ass about [censored] they do not know anything about. J
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#29
04-24-2007, 11:13 AM
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My girlfriend is demanding a ring; we live together. The relationship is strained because of this. I work a lot (60-80 hours a week in the office), it's the #1 priority right now, not sure I want to commit to being married, etc. Being able to resolve this problem while not living together would be a lot easier than if we hadn't already moved in together. She doesn't like living with me while we're not engaged, apparently. [/ QUOTE ] kyleb, no offense, but everything you've written about your GF makes me think you need a different GF. She must be an incredible [censored] for you to stay with her.
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#30
04-24-2007, 11:22 AM
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Re: Girls refusing to move in with a guy without a ring
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[ QUOTE ] My girlfriend is demanding a ring; we live together. The relationship is strained because of this. I work a lot (60-80 hours a week in the office), it's the #1 priority right now, not sure I want to commit to being married, etc. Being able to resolve this problem while not living together would be a lot easier than if we hadn't already moved in together. She doesn't like living with me while we're not engaged, apparently. [/ QUOTE ] kyleb, no offense, but everything you've written about your GF makes me think you need a different GF. She must be an incredible [censored] for you to stay with her. [/ QUOTE ] I was kinda thinking the same, but upon reading this I have decided that she must actually be kinda awesome, and kyle just never talks about the good stuff.
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