Pregnant GF

[KungFuManchu]

This is an excellent situation where life experience comes into play. Im 27 now, and if I was with a girl and she got pregnant, even finacially strapped Id be happy actually (this depends on our relationship). But you are 22. If I was 22 Id probably be freaking out because there was a lot I didnt know about myself.

Although you do seem a lot more selfish than I do, or was at that age, and Im pretty selfish, but to each his own. So my advice, stop freaking out. Seriously, there is no point anymore. You are in the situation, now is the time to get prepared.

1. find out, is she having the baby. Talk this over and get some sort of resolve on where things are heading.

2. If she is, you can always move to a different town if you hate yours so much. Tell her you can not stand this place and you are going to move, you cant stay here forever. How long were you going to stay anyway, until she finished college? If so, tell her we are out of here once school is up. (btw dont let her drop out, or drop out for long, this will be imo the tougest part, but once shes done with school then move)

3. Move up stakes. More money.

4. You can still enjoy a ton of [censored] while you have kids. Sure things are harder, but you are looking at it, like OMG I have a kid, THE WAY IS SHUT.

5. If you leave her just because of the kid, you are still going to be paying for it, taking care of it. I think if you were going to marry her, and loved her, leaving her because of the kid is a pretty [censored] thing.

6. btw, have you told her any of this, because you should be honest with her here. She needs to know what you are feeling and what you are freaking out about.

7. dreams and ambitions, a kid is not going to stop you here. what dreams and ambitions is the kid going to put up the stop sign on? It may be more complicated, but a kid is not the end of the world. Like a relationship there will be comprimises.

Ive never been in the situation and I know a crapton of guys freakout on this and its normal. But dont treat this like a disease on your future, you need to communicate, figure out whats going on, question what it is that you want for yourself...and be honest with your woman. If you honesty see no way of seeing through whatever future you want for youself, if there is no way that can work with a kid in it, tell her. Go from there.