Wedding Crashers - Is that possible?

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In any wedding of a decent size there are always people there who you or bride are like, "I thought they were on your side."
"I don't know them. I thought they were on YOUR side."


When I got married there were people on my side that I didn't really know at all (family friends from wherever, somebody's date, whatever).
My wedding had a significant number of people though.


I haven't seen the movie and don't know about crashing...but I can't imagine it would be that hard.

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I think you'd get caught at the dinner if you tried this (assuming it's assigned seats). Just tough to get around this problem.

That said, given the drunken, fun ambiance of weddings, even if caught, you may avoid getting kicked out. The bride may be too focused on other things to bother having you removed, and the groom probably wouldn't care.

Best bet would be to skip everything and sneak into the tent after the dinner is done. By then everyone is migrating to the dance floor, and all the chicks are loaded, so you can get right to work. Why bother with small talking strangers and stressing out over possibly getting caught. When everyone is hammered, you're in the clear, and this is the best part anyway. Do you really need to hear the dragging, 40 minute best man speech about the time the two of them got busted for shooting spit balls in study hall?

[PokerFink]

I chimed in on the last thread, and I'll do it again. I worked this past summer as a caterer and did a lot of weddings, so I have pretty good insight into this.

Hell, I'll write a guide for this.

Crashing a Cocktail Hour: This should be a piece of cake. The caterers/bartenders will have no idea, and probably woulden't care anyway. The bridal party is usually off taking pictures, which means all the big hitters (bride, groom, parents, bridesmaids and best man) are busy and won't notice you. This has basically no downside.

Crashing a Buffet-Style Dinner: This shoulden't be too difficult either. When you get to the cocktail hour, grab one of the servers (caterers) and find out what type of dinner is being served. If it's buffet, find another server and ask him/her to place a couple extra chairs out since there are a few extra guests. If there are younger servers working, grab them, since some 20 year old kid is not going to ask questions. Throw him a fiver and there is no way he'll ever rat you out. Once the dinner starts, just make sure to avoid the bride/groom. If anyone asks, just introduce yourself and act like you belong, no one will know the difference. The people serving at the buffet could care less. Also, buffet dinners have tons of extra food, so running out is not a worry.

Crashing a Sit-Down Dinner: This would be much more difficult, especially if there is assigned seats. You have to attack this early. As soon as you get there, get someone to place the extra chairs. A server will be going around taking dinner orders (filet/chicken/whatever) so make sure you get your order in. There are some rare dinners where orders are taken in advance (ie before the party), in that case you're basically screwed. But if they are taking orders, you can probably pull this off. Find out where the bridal party is sitting (it should be obvious, either a large elaborate table or a "sweethearts" table for just two people) and sit as far away from it as possible. Preferbly in the back corner of another room. When the bride/groom start coming around, try to escape, and otherwise just play it off and do a good acting job.

Most brides/grooms won't really care; they're too busy/happy/drunk to make a stink out of it. Personally, if someone freeloaded my wedding, I would want to introduce myself and make sure they are having a good time. It's all paid for in advance, so it's not going to cost them anything extra. The main thing is to act like you belong and get an extra chair/table set up in advance during the cocktail hour.

Happy hunting.

[Dids]

In theory, that movie was inspired by some real life experiences, so like, yeah, I'd assume so.

[JoshuaD]

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if someone freeloaded my wedding, I would want to introduce myself and make sure they are having a good time.

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Ditto.

[WDC]

Of course its possible. I did it by accident once. Went into the wrong reception at a ahotel hosting 3 or 4 weddings. Luckily I picjked one with an open bar. I had two or three drinks and a nice convewrsation with the fasther of the bride. i didn't notice my mastake until the bride and groom showed up about 1/2 hour into it.

[pryor15]

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Impossible to crash a sit down dinner with seating assignments, i dont care how big the wedding is.

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that's odd. i just did it a couple of weeks ago. it went off without a hitch.

[Hellrazor]

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Impossible to crash a sit down dinner with seating assignments, i dont care how big the wedding is.

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that's odd. i just did it a couple of weeks ago. it went off without a hitch.

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Maybe you crashed my wedding - I wouldn't know. We had ~275 people. Not everyone shows who says they are coming - seating is arranged but neither my wife nor I knew everyone by face. (parents from both sides invite a bunch as well...)

Given the care the waitstaff took to make sure there were no interruptions if you were to walk to the matre'd at dinner and say - where the hell are my seats?? I was supposed to be at table 12! I am pretty sure they would pull up seats to a short table and set it immediately.

But skip all that and just walk into the cocktail hour - eat all and drink all you want and move on before the seated reception.

(All this applies to a NY style wedding with 200+ guests IMHO)