Unrequited love - what to do?

[Klompy]

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edfurlong might be one of my favorite posters

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Queer.

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Obv, did you miss my coming out thread?

[edfurlong]

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Obv, did you miss my coming out thread?

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I guess I did, are there pictures?

[WilyTilt]

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Never stoned - I don't smoke dope and neither does she.
But yes, when I've told her I've liked her I've either been drunk or it's been by email, never sober and in person.

I guess I know I need to have the final "reject me pls so I can move on" scene with her, but I'd rather do it when I'm back weighing 180lbs than 225lbs, just in case.

I have a friend who gets laid all the time, a pick-up artist. How different we are - I'm wanting to be in love, to meet "the one", he just wants to get laid. How much more successful he is, and ironically how much more likely he is to actually fall in love than I am!




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OP, it seems like you can't communicate honestly unless you're drunk or stoned. You should work on that.

Then let her know that you're interested one more shot - when you're sober and you're prepared, and you can lay out your case to her. If that doesn't work, as it probably won't given what you wrote, then it's time to move on.

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It does seem that you need to relax more when you're around her, instead of acting like she's on a pedestal. Successful women generally would prefer someone be on their their level instead of worshipping them from below. It's probably a combination of that, and your own self-image issues. You'd be more attractive if you acted more attractive. If losing weight helps, go do it instead of moping. Writing the next bestselling novel wouldn't hurt either.

I don't think you mentioned this, but have you actually tried to make a physical move on her at any point? In 9 years?

Failing all of this, you sound like you're British, so you can always move to the states, where your accent will give you +2 out of 10 instantly.

[MediaPA]

You have two options:

1) Stalk her properly. Your current stalking methods aren't working, so go all out. Send her a cow's heart or something awesome like that for Valentine's Day. Send her letters in magazine print. Make a shrine.

2) No wait, that's your only option.

Show her that you are really dedicated what you have imagined as the perfect relationship. Then and only then, might you find true happiness when Bubba SIIYP when you drop the soap.

[nature\\\'s_hated]

Er, I guess I did have a stalking problem - or she did! - when we first met. I just couldn't understand why she didn't want to see me, and every time she didn't return a call I just needed to hear from her even more, needed her approval, needed to see her, missed her.

But the last five years I haven't stalked her in any way. I contact her very rarely - about as much as she contacts me. The dozens of times we've met up have been one of us texting the other, finding we're both free, arranging to meet.

The only time I've felt like it was returning to the bad old days has been the last few months. I spent the week in November after I last saw her trying to get her to come to stuff I was doing with my friends. I was hoping to integrate her into my crowd of friends, who she'd met and liked, and happened to be doing stuff with them most nights that week that I knew she'd like, but she didn't reply to any of the invitations. So I left off, and didn't contact her again till New Year's Eve. Replied to the text I got from her on the 2nd, didn't hear back, and that's that. I'm not going to contact her - she knows I'm leaving my flat at the end of the month and would like to meet before I go, it's for her to contact me or, as I suspect will happen, not contact me.


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I havn't read all of this thread, but it honestly sounds like you have a stalking problem.

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[mmcd]

Quit whining and start digging the pit in your basement. It should be at least 12 feet deep. After that, all you need to do is get some chloroform and you'll be ready to go.

[Vyse]

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You have two options:

1) Stalk her properly. Your current stalking methods aren't working, so go all out. Send her a cow's heart or something awesome like that for Valentine's Day. Send her letters in magazine print. Make a shrine.

2) No wait, that's your only option.

Show her that you are really dedicated what you have imagined as the perfect relationship. Then and only then, might you find true happiness when Bubba SIIYP when you drop the soap.

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LMAO wow this post owns edfurlong's

[nature\\\'s_hated]

I make no apologies for it. It was a great experience - a high-end girl in an upmarket apartment. It took most of the fear out of sex for me. Went back a few times and saw some others. Soon after I had a one-night stand for the first time with a lovely girl - who happened to be a company director and successful, collected contemporary artist while I was an unemployed degenerate gambling bum - and I'd not have had the confidence to do this if it hadn't been for the earlier experiences with hookers.




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Lost my virginity to a hooker - holla?

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plz tell me you're joking.

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[edfurlong]

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LMAO wow this post owns edfurlong's

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Dude, I have feelings.

[Vyse]

OP, you're weird. But I think I like it. No [censored].