why boobs?

[bernie]

Take this with a grain of salt. I dont know you, and have never seen you. So it may apply, it may not. Hopefully it will give you some ideas.

If you're getting them for yourself, to make you feel more complete as a 'woman'. Ok, i can buy in. If you're getting them for how others perceive you like a band-aid cure for your self esteem, save the money from the surgery and spend it on a shrink.

There are plenty of happy women out there with small cans. Longterm, personality is what your mate gets to wake up to in the morning.

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I have never been able to get close to a boy and that is largely because of my lack of breasts.

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This doesn't seem to have anything to do with the boy, but with yourself. It has nothing to do with your breasts, btw.

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I know getting BA will not cure all of my self esteem issues, but I believe it will make me more comfortable in my own skin and that is why I am doing it.

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Until something else comes up that you may see as a 'block' for you as far as attracting men.

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I really NEED BA because I look more like a boy than a girl and it greatly effects the way I see myself as a female.


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So if a guy saw you from behind, or the neck up, you look like a boy? If that's the case, you are a prime candidate for further surgery once the initial euphoria of you BA wears off and you find something else that may be a reason you can't get close or attract a guy.

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To me, she looked beautiful the way she was. But in my case, it's different.

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This may be her exact way of thinking also. Ever consider that? Wouldn't it be funny if you both thought this same thing when you saw each other?

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In some ways I wish boobs didn't mean anything in our society. Maybe then I wouldn't be going through with this surgery. But I am because I don't feel "feminine."

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Seems like your getting them for 'society' more than for yourself.

Based on your post, and much of the underlying tone contained within, i would suggest going to see someone to see the 'real' reason your not happy with yourself. Take him a copy of your initial post. That should give them a good starting point.

That is, if you're not 'scared' of the real reason and just want the band-aid temporary cure.

I also fully agree with Ray's response.

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