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#31
09-12-2006, 08:54 PM
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Re: Do you Cheat?
If I was married and lame enough to be a serial cheater I'd probably convince myself that everyone else does it too.
Same with cheating on my taxes, lying regularly, etc etc. 
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#32
09-12-2006, 08:57 PM
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Most people don't get married planning to cheat. It just happens. FTR, 10 years. Never cheated. [/ QUOTE ] Of course not. I know having kids complicates things, but anyone that "just lets it happen" either has problems in their marriage or other issues or shouldn't be married in the first place.
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#33
09-12-2006, 09:40 PM
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Re: Do you Cheat?
The problem with cheating, as I see it, is that the morning after I cheated, I would have to kiss my wife before she goes to work and hug my 2-year-old son when he wakes up from bed. Then, I'd have to wash my face and look myself in the mirror.
Then, I'd probably have to cry, then vomit, and then either shoot myself or live in total shame. So, no, I don't plan on cheating. Ever. I work closely with a man, though, who has a stay-at-home wife with 5 kids ages 17-7. He cheats VERY often. He's very open about it to us at work he's kind of close to, although I doubt his wife and children know about it. I think he feels bad about it sometimes, but only about his kids. He's been 'done' with his wife for quite sometime, and I'm pretty sure a divorce would ruin everyone. His wife has no job skills and wouldn't be able to work for a good wage, he would have to pay about 75 percent of his take-home to wife/child support, and his kids would be devestated. So, I think he's just in it for the kids and, when they're all out of the house, he'll leave or something.
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#37
09-13-2006, 04:59 AM
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Re: Do you Cheat?
Not married now(or even close to being so), but I'm never going to settle for anyone at all, so I'm 99.99% sure that when I do get married I'll be in love enough that I'll never cheat. I'd much rather just be single my whole life than marry someone and then cheat on them.
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#39
09-13-2006, 09:10 AM
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Re: Do you Cheat?
Well it seems like the vast majority of OOT does NOT condone cheating. I like what Sfer said about those who habitually do something and rationalize it by saying "everyone does that". This is quite possibly the case.
I am a bit surprised to see that many here are saying a rub n' tug is cheating as well. It is possible that since this has never been an issue in my marriage (wife has no problem with this so long as the objective here isn't getting the HJ, but rather just being a natural culmination of an awesome massage - although this was discussed quite a while back and never tested seriously so perhaps just BS that she would backtrack on if reality hit). I would really like to hear from those who voted that yes, they do cheat. Please create a dummy account (to maintain discretion) and tell us why you think it is ok to cheat or perhaps you think it isn't ok and you have some guilt now? Share with OOT!!!!
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#40
09-13-2006, 11:07 AM
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Re: Do you Cheat?
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I am a bit surprised to see that many here are saying a rub n' tug is cheating as well. It is possible that since this has never been an issue in my marriage (wife has no problem with this so long as the objective here isn't getting the HJ, but rather just being a natural culmination of an awesome massage [/ QUOTE ] she's cheating on you
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