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#21
07-05-2006, 04:58 PM
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Re: Letter to my parents (LONG)
you should try to reach a compromise with your parents instead of trying to convince them that you're better off playing poker than getting a job. remember that in a compromise you will have to give up some goals in order to accommodate your parent's concerns. hopefully in the end you and your parents can come up with a solution that makes both parties happy, even if it's not exactly what either side wanted in the first place.
if you're having trouble approaching your parents, then read rory's posts. they are really excellent guidelines on what you want to get out of your conversations with them. even if you think that your parents are too hard-headed or whatever, just try approaching them anyway. they might be surprised to see you taking the initiative and respecting their concerns, which could make them more willing to negotiate. 
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#22
07-05-2006, 05:45 PM
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Re: Letter to my parents (LONG)
I'm not going to flame you either. But please take this advice, offered from someone a lot closer in age and life experience to your parents than to you. DO NOT SEND THIS LETTER.
If your mother fears that you're at risk of becoming a gambling addict, your letter will confirm her fears.
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#24
07-05-2006, 07:26 PM
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Re: Letter to my parents (LONG)
Logically explaining this to your parents will not work.
They don't care about poker, they care about you. Don't answer their questions directly, but don't lie either. Just joke around and say you make a few bucks and play for fun. You never need to explain yourself to anyone. And if you have any common sense, don't ever talk about actual dollar amounts. IMHO, you are getting way too serious about this.
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#25
07-05-2006, 08:57 PM
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Re: Letter to my parents (LONG)
If you were my son and you gave me that letter (we wouldn't have an issue about you playing poker as long as you set some realistic future goals, but that's another thread), and you lived at home with me...here would be my response.
Great...good for you... Rent is $400. You buy your own food. Cook it mind you, we're not doing it. You deal with your own laundry. You pay 1/3 utilties. Find your own health insurance. You pay your own car, gas, and insurance. If you plan to go to school, you pay for that too, or arrange your own financial aid. If you can survive then, fantastic. If you live outside of the house and you are paying for absolutely everything, it doesn't quite matter what your parents think. If they are supporting you, based on your letter (because I think it's confrontational and poorly written), then I employ every condition I wrote above. Good luck.
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#27
07-06-2006, 01:22 AM
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Re: Letter to my parents (LONG)
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I still think it was a positive thing for me to get my thoughts onto paper in this instance... [/ QUOTE ] I disagree. I stopped reading the original post when it became painfully clear that you do not have the firm grasp on reality that you claim to, and that you do not have a clue as to what your parents are concerned about. Your letter is all about you and poker and money and your car and your short-term desires. I can tell from your second hand information that your parents are not concerned about anything that you tried to explain or rationalize in that letter. If you want a family life, tear up the letter and go talk to your parents. If not, drop out and play poker, and reread the previous sentence in 5 years.
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#28
07-06-2006, 01:44 AM
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Don't give this letter to your parents because it is badly written, very confrontational, and full of crap that does not address their issues. Also, you come across as very young/immature in this letter. [/ QUOTE ]
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#29
07-06-2006, 02:06 AM
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Re: Letter to my parents (LONG)
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Jack, IMO, there are so many issues with this letter I'm not even going to pick it apart. I really hope that you haven't delivered this to your parents yet! The one thing that I will comment on is this: If you are to the point in your relationship with your parents that you need to give them a letter - the problem between you and them likely has little to do with your poker playing. Think about that. [/ QUOTE ] It doesn't seem at all likely to me that he hasn't, and repeatedly. This seems a strange suggestion.
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