She left me

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Just read the first two threads and then this one.

I'm sorry you are going through this painful experience. Having your wife come to you with a final decision like this has an impact that is extremely jarring at best, and emotionally devastating at worst. This is compounded by it being a surprise, and her having made this decision with what feels to you like little to none of your input affecting her decision.

I am sorry you are going through this. I agree with the posters who suggested finding a lawyer to walk you through the divorce process. This is going to affect you for a long time, and it is best to start moving forward with your life as soon as possible - including moving through the stages of the grieving process. After the divorce process is moving along, I suggest taking some time to talk to a therapist, preferably one trained in dealing with these situations.

You will get through this.