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#121
08-24-2006, 05:55 PM
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Re: Some dude called my cell phone looking for my fiance
ok - I could be 100% wrong in this post - but I gotta bring it up
We're all assuming she's cheated on you. (looks likely, sorry man) However, its still possible that she hasn't done all that much wrong here. Her shenanigans/odd behavior could be explained by the fact you reacted like you did - and - in all honesty here - we can only assume this is not the first time you have reacted similarly. Even if she has a legit explanation, or more likely an explanation for a slightly shady situation that might not be as bad as it seems, she could possibly act like this just out of fear of how you would react. I'm not really blaming you for all of your behavior...I've been through some [censored] this last year and have learned what I am truly cpable of and surprised myself with my crappy reactions to things over..and over...and over...again... Anyways - just tossing that out there, its something to consider. 
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#124
08-24-2006, 05:56 PM
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Re: Some dude called my cell phone looking for my fiance
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[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] Wow, I think every single decision you've made so far has been wrong. Edit: Except for not taking your daughter. That would have been a mess. [/ QUOTE ] I think OP did fine. He didn't do anything violent, didn't break anything, he didn't even tell the slutbag what a rotten cuntwhore she was. He grabed some stuff and got the hell out of there when it became obvious the bitch had done him dirty. [/ QUOTE ] There were some words and yelling but it wasn't nonstop berating. There was nothing broken and I've never hit her once in the 5 years we've been together. [/ QUOTE ] Do you have any idea what Daddy leaving does to a 4 year old? For the rest of their life? You need to get back there and try to fix this and try to minimize the damage to your kid. [/ QUOTE ] no, he doesnt. do you have any idea what it does to a kid growing up with a daddy who doesnt have a spine? [/ QUOTE ] Please. I've seen some stupid things said on OOT, but I think you win the prize here. Men with spines own up to their obligations and do everything in their power to give their kids the best chance in life. Bailing out doesn't meet that criteria. If it can't be fixed, it can't be fixed - but he HAS to try. [/ QUOTE ] How does one try to work things out when the whore has refused to say anything and locked her self in the [censored] bedroom. You're an idiot too.
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#125
08-24-2006, 05:56 PM
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Re: Some dude called my cell phone looking for my fiance
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you'd find out her real feelings/what really happened. If she went out with friends/got drunk/made a mistake and really regretted it, maybe you could move on from that. If not then at least you'd know. Plus it gives him time to get pissed and get it out his system before confronting her and doing something dumb like kicking the door of the bathroom. [/ QUOTE ] I think with me it would be backwards. If I found out about it and a lot of time to stew about it and scheme about how I was going to trap her I think it would be worse. I think at the time I'd be fairly level headed until it became obvious that the reason I wasn't getting answers was because I wouldn't like them. Plus, she can also tell me face to face whether she [censored] up or not.
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#126
08-24-2006, 05:58 PM
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Re: Some dude called my cell phone looking for my fiance
[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] Wow, I think every single decision you've made so far has been wrong. Edit: Except for not taking your daughter. That would have been a mess. [/ QUOTE ] I think OP did fine. He didn't do anything violent, didn't break anything, he didn't even tell the slutbag what a rotten cuntwhore she was. He grabed some stuff and got the hell out of there when it became obvious the bitch had done him dirty. [/ QUOTE ] There were some words and yelling but it wasn't nonstop berating. There was nothing broken and I've never hit her once in the 5 years we've been together. [/ QUOTE ] Do you have any idea what Daddy leaving does to a 4 year old? For the rest of their life? You need to get back there and try to fix this and try to minimize the damage to your kid. [/ QUOTE ] no, he doesnt. do you have any idea what it does to a kid growing up with a daddy who doesnt have a spine? [/ QUOTE ] Please. I've seen some stupid things said on OOT, but I think you win the prize here. Men with spines own up to their obligations and do everything in their power to give their kids the best chance in life. Bailing out doesn't meet that criteria. If it can't be fixed, it can't be fixed - but he HAS to try. [/ QUOTE ] How does one try to work things out when the whore has refused to say anything and locked her self in the [censored] bedroom. You're an idiot too. [/ QUOTE ] She refused to say anything because the first thing OP did is yell at her and try to kick the door down. Please don't procreate.
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#127
08-24-2006, 05:58 PM
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Re: Some dude called my cell phone looking for my fiance
[ QUOTE ]
[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] Wow, I think every single decision you've made so far has been wrong. Edit: Except for not taking your daughter. That would have been a mess. [/ QUOTE ] I think OP did fine. He didn't do anything violent, didn't break anything, he didn't even tell the slutbag what a rotten cuntwhore she was. He grabed some stuff and got the hell out of there when it became obvious the bitch had done him dirty. [/ QUOTE ] There were some words and yelling but it wasn't nonstop berating. There was nothing broken and I've never hit her once in the 5 years we've been together. [/ QUOTE ] Do you have any idea what Daddy leaving does to a 4 year old? For the rest of their life? You need to get back there and try to fix this and try to minimize the damage to your kid. [/ QUOTE ] no, he doesnt. do you have any idea what it does to a kid growing up with a daddy who doesnt have a spine? [/ QUOTE ] Please. I've seen some stupid things said on OOT, but I think you win the prize here. Men with spines own up to their obligations and do everything in their power to give their kids the best chance in life. Bailing out doesn't meet that criteria. If it can't be fixed, it can't be fixed - but he HAS to try. [/ QUOTE ] LOL he HAS to be there for his daughter. he doesnt HAVE to be cheated on and accept it. you lose, i win, bye [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]
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#128
08-24-2006, 05:58 PM
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Re: Some dude called my cell phone looking for my fiance
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excellent point. he might avoid child support! [/ QUOTE ] At this point Sekrah is most likely on the hook for child support regarless of whether or not the mommy is screwing around and regardless of the results of any DNA tests. In most states, once you are named as the daddy there is no going back.
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#129
08-24-2006, 05:59 PM
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Re: Some dude called my cell phone looking for my fiance
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#130
08-24-2006, 05:59 PM
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Re: Some dude called my cell phone looking for my fiance
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[ QUOTE ] Let's be clear about something here. As suspicious as this looks (and even if he's 97% sure she's cheating) - he hasn't found out anything yet. It could be an ex-bf/stalker/jealous male friend (as someone mentioned upthread) and her way of dealing with it is to bottle it up and not deal with. Maybe it's someone from her past she's not proud of, but the OP hasn't found out anything conclusively yet. [/ QUOTE ] What would be 'conclusive' to you, her saying "I can't talk right now, but I can't wait to [censored] you again" on the cell phone? [/ QUOTE ] I understand where you're coming from. But this isn't some 17 year old breaking up with his girlfriend of 3 months. They have a past, and more importantly, a kid together. Like I said - odds are very much in favour of the fact that she's cheating. Objectively speaking - it would be hard to deny. But there's a lot at risk here and making a conclusive decision based on limited information is certainly not the right play. I'm not saying he should've pretending like nothing happened. But he should've filled in the blanks before making any kind of decision.
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