[Darth Poker]

as long at it takes so that I'm positive that I'm not mistaking passionate infatuation for real love. in the two instances in my life where I actually did love the girl, it was easily a year or more before I'd feel comfortable saying it and meaning it. and I certainly wouldnt say it if I didnt mean it...that's just the way I am.

usually, the girl would say it far earlier - and I'm not sure that they weren't passionately infatuated and making the common mistake of not knowing where the real line differentiating the two feelings was.