Do you say something here?

gamblore99 · #1 10-04-2007, 04:56 PM

One of my best friends has been dating a girl for over 2 years now. He is 22, she is 23. Its his first relationship. The guy is not the best looking and has trouble getting girls. The girl used to be acceptable, about a 6, but has gained like 50 pounds while they have been dating. She also has no friends, a family that is terrible, and OCD. She also wants to move in with him, and get married soon.

Whenever his relationship comes up, and we ask him whats up, will they get married or move in, he says "well its the next logical step..." and sounds very defeated. It seems like he is not really happy with the relationship.

Me, and his other close friends all think this relationship should not be moving forward anytime soon, but we're not sure if its our place to say anything. Should we just continue to keep our mouths shut, while our friend continues down this very depressing road?

Spellmen · #2 10-04-2007, 04:58 PM

Mind your own [censored] business

dw2006 · #3 10-04-2007, 05:00 PM

I think it is ok to try to initiate some discussion about it with him, but if he shuts down and says he doesn't want to talk about it then let him make his own mistakes.

daryn · #4 10-04-2007, 05:02 PM

just tell him to dump that broad straight up

guids · #5 10-04-2007, 05:03 PM

theres a lot of ways to dissuade your buddy out of a relationship, leveling with him is rarely the best way to go.

Los Feliz Slim · #6 10-04-2007, 05:06 PM

If he's one of your best friends you should be able to talk to him about this, like "Hey, how's it going with xxxxx?"

howzit · #7 10-04-2007, 05:09 PM

your best friend deserves to hear your opinion about how fat she really is.

dylan's alias · #8 10-04-2007, 05:11 PM

If asked your opinion, be very careful about saying too much. If he ends up marrying this chick, you do NOT want to be the guy who told him what a huge mistake he was making. You can make it pretty clear that you are concerned, but there is a line you shouldn't cross.

If he doesn't ask your opinion, STFU.

selurah · #9 10-04-2007, 05:14 PM

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If he doesn't ask your opinion, STFU.

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AbreuTime · #10 10-04-2007, 05:14 PM

1 on 1, not piss-drunk, start up a conversation. Don't do it with buddies around. Get his thoughts, and don't try to convince him to do anything. That's what a good friend would do.