How long do I withhold tips? Dealer mistake costs me $1800. (long)

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whoever says they wouldn't be pissed off is lying

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This is totally untrue.

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I'm convinced that most dealers feel worse about mistakes like this than I do. When a dealer (particularly one I know reasonably well) has an oops like this and it costs me a pot, they usually get a whipped puppydog look and can't express how sorry they are adamantly enough.

Yeah, I sometimes have that instantaneous "crap that cost me" response but in seconds I remember "next time it'll work out the other way--it all evens out in the end" and I'm over it.

Dealers certainly can do things that can keep me annoyed for a while. Attitude problems, say, like actually REFUSING to call the floor proclaiming "I know the rule, we don't need the floor" and then doing something irreversible and wrong that gives an opponent an edge.

But honest oopses I can shed from my mind pretty quickly.
Anybody who thinks everybody will be pissed over such a thing is suffering from empathic failure.