Infidelity

[Lottery Larry]

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http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5525_qa.html

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I didn't find it on a brief review of the page- more specific, please?

And one reference does not an addiction make.

[TheNoodleMan]

The bulk of your posts about you impending divorce are emotional and irrational. This one included.

[wet work]

Don't marry a sloot next time. Enabler.

[Lottery Larry]

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is choosing to hurt someone for your own gain/pleasures. When else is it acceptable in society to do something like that?

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WWF, extreme fighting, boxing

Reality shows


Football

[RunDownHouse]

slim,

If you can afford it, maybe you should see a pro instead of relying on marriagebuilders.com for your therapy.

[RayPowers]

I fully support the idea of clinics to help cure women of infidelity. In fact, I would like to volunteer to work at one.

Ray

[membersclub]

With all due respect, where does accountability fit into your reasoning?

When you're married, you become responsible to your mate for the commitments you've made. So when a person chooses to have an affair, they have made a conscious and intentional decision to betray their partner's trust and break their marriage vows.

Your wife compromised her standards and got her emotional and/or sexual needs met from someone other than you – and she, and she alone, is accountable for her actions. No excuses.

Nevertheless, I will say this. While you're not responsible for your wife's affair, or even her happiness, you both bear equal responsibility for the state of your marriage before the affair.

[skunkworks]

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I fully support the idea of clinics to help cure women of infidelity. In fact, I would like to volunteer to work at one.

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[TDouble]

I cannot empathize with your situation but I'll offer a sobering bit of reality here.

Are you taking any accountability for this? Surely you can't think that you are not at fault in some way here. I'm not condoning your wife's actions but what about the things you could have done differently?

Also, you're struggling with the difference between perception and reality. You've been hurt in arguably one of the worst ways and your judgment/rationalizations are sketchy at best. To be able to move forward you need to distinguish between the way you feel and the way it really is bro.

Also, may the ex catch a nasty case of VD /end atta boy pick me up

[Go_Blue88]

ehh i think your post is kind of interesting from the perspective that infidelity is an addiction. obviously the persecution argument is over the top though. however, if you believe that infidelity is indeed an addiction, then shouldn't you be more inclined to forgive your wife and get her help? you present infidelity as analogous to drugs, but if your wife was addicted to drugs, i doubt you'd divorce her and tell her to [censored] off; rather, you'd try to help her.

so given that, i'm not sure i believe that you think of infidelity as an addiction.