Are large weddings worth the money?

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as long as people know what they are getting into at a wedding (cash bar, or light food, or whatever) there is nothing wrong with making whatever arrangement you want. nowhere is it written in stone that you have to feed people at your wedding, or get them drunk, or whatever.

personally i have been to several weddings that featured a potluck-style meal afterwards but copious free booze, this was great.

my own wedding, i would prefer to spend a bunch of money on food and booze and not much on anything else.

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I guess if everyone you know thinks cash bars are normal, and they represent the majority of folks at your wedding, then it's fine. In that case, you probably wouldn't need to indicate that it was cash bar style on the invitation.

I agree with you on focusing on food and booze costs and pinching more on extras like flowers, video guys, fancy invitations, and stuff like that. If you're not going to have a band, you should have a pretty good DJ. Emcees I can take or leave- in fact they're sometimes a bit cheesy.