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#32
11-02-2007, 08:02 PM
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Wow, marriage sounds awful after reading this thread. So complicated. [/ QUOTE ] I agree, which makes me think people are HORRIBLE at thinking through the long term problems that could arise from the way they make decisions like this. trust me Nat, my marriage is no where near this complicated. In this case, I really can't figure out why the hell you need to do something like this. At the end of the day, you are using your (plural) money, and spending the winnings on your family. Why do you need to make it seem like a complicated staking arrangement. Just set some more money aside for poker, and it all gets simpler. 
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#33
11-02-2007, 08:09 PM
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Personally, I think Sherman is way out there with his arrangement. However, several of my friends do it the same way (married couple shares everything). Do whatever works for you obviously. For me, having a shared account and a separate account for each partner causes way less friction. And no, in this day and age this is obviously no hassle to manage.
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#34
11-02-2007, 08:35 PM
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OK, I had typed a long post explaining why OP should NOT go with wifey's suggestion (last thing you need is more pressure to do well in poker), and why he needs to learn to manage his roll by himself (you don't want a person with a non-poker related vested interest running your roll).
The post got lost, and then came all this depressing stuff about mariage and money. Guys, you're wrong, it's easy. The point of mariage is to improve quality of life, not detract from it! So think about how you would manage your money as a single, and then do the same - just better - with your wife. My life. We have two (2) checking accounts (direct deposit) - and a budget. It doesn't matter who pays what (as long as it's being paid). If I'm low on doe the Mouse gives me a check - and vice versa. It's in the budget. The budget covers EVERYTHING - not only the boring stuff, but also her spa visits and shopping sprees, my poker (OK, after 4 years of winning that's of theoretical usage), my porn, my you name it - AND a decent allowance for each of us, not based on what we contribute, but on what we like to spend. Exactly like we would manage our money if we were two independent adults. It has worked for 6 years now, and it still works. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]
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#35
11-02-2007, 08:44 PM
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That being said, my bankroll management sucks and I'm sometimes stuck playing the $40 and $50 tournys as opposed to the $150 and $250's. [/ QUOTE ] Thank goodness she's there to stake you $1k so that you can adequately afford those $150-$250 tourneys. No ROR there!!
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#36
11-02-2007, 09:12 PM
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wow if this sort of thing ever happens to me somebody punch me in the face [/ QUOTE ] The second a woman has an interest in you, I'll castrate you to save you the effort; got it.... I think I read this wrong.
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#37
11-02-2007, 09:33 PM
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I can assure you that getting to keep 50% of your winnings is a much better deal than most of us married guys have. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]
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#38
11-02-2007, 09:41 PM
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You guys should consider doing what we do. I have my wife on a STRICT allowance.
I just give her all of my money, whenever I have any. She sometimes gives some back. OT (ps - kidding, obv. Money is simply not an issue in our house. One account, both paycheques go in. What we need, we buy. What we want, if we can afford, we buy. Works for us, doesn't work for others. But making 'side-deals' with your wife, in my opinion, can lead to trouble long-term...) Edit to add: The one place where a deal with your wife makes good sense is with the TIME it takes to play... That can be a sticky situation - especially once a baby comes into the mix...
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#40
11-02-2007, 10:22 PM
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Edit to add: The one place where a deal with your wife makes good sense is with the TIME it takes to play... That can be a sticky situation - especially once a baby comes into the mix... [/ QUOTE ] Ah ha! This is a point I failed to make clear when I spoke of the significance of vested interest. With few days off and two kids, my poker time is limited. I can't be donkin around at the $40,$50's and expect to make the same money. I think MicroBob makes a good point with the 1k enabling me to consistantly play the bigger tournys and I forgot who said learning to manage better my own bankroll is best, but they're right. For the record, via direct deposit, I give the wife 4k a month for expenses/bills. What's left is mine for personal use. Men need toys and beers with the boys. My wife gives me that and after 16+ years of marriage, it works great. The $40-50's I was talking bout are the Bike Nooners/Nights. Though I'm starting to like HG more and more. I play the bigger Hustler tournys every chance I get.
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