If you died today....

nickey009 · #1 10-26-2007, 05:32 PM

How many people do you think would show up at your funeral? I just got back from a funeral where approximately 250 showed up. The family was overwhelmed by the numbers. The crazy part is that this girl died from an apparent suicide. I don't think I'll ever understand how someone can bring themselves to suicide.

gobbomom · #2 10-26-2007, 05:36 PM

I'm not having a funeral, I think they're dumb.

Bartman387 · #3 10-26-2007, 05:38 PM

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I don't think you'll havemuch say in the matter.

EDIT: In what way do you find funerals dumb?

Thug Bubbles · #4 10-26-2007, 05:46 PM

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I don't think you'll havemuch say in the matter.

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Seriously. Funerals are for the living, not the dead. It's a way for people who cared about you to deal with the loss together. And get drunk and start fights.

dw33b · #5 10-26-2007, 05:53 PM

2... thats if we're allowed to count the pastor and the organist

oddjob · #6 10-26-2007, 06:00 PM

my 2 bowling buddies would probably just spread my ashes.

guy in coffin · #7 10-26-2007, 08:23 PM

only one guy showed up to my viewing [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img]

gobbomom · #8 10-26-2007, 05:58 PM

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I'm not having a funeral, I think they're dumb.

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I don't think you'll havemuch say in the matter.

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of course I have a say in the matter. My kids know I don't want a funeral. Funerals serve 3 purposes:
1) to memorialize the dead person's life
I feel no need for this because the best things I accomplished in this life live on after me
2) to give a sense of closure
I think this is unnecessary because there never really is closure when the dead person's memory lives on forever. I'd prefer to remember someone, and have others remember me, as a living vibrant being.
3) to provide comfort to the surviving loved ones
I don't think there is any comfort involved in a funeral. I think it's a huge imposition to ask of those in mourning to entertain and put on a happy face for an audience. Or conversely, show how well or not they handle their very private feelings.

NT! · #9 10-26-2007, 06:01 PM

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I think it's a huge imposition to ask of those in mourning to entertain and put on a happy face for an audience.

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yeah because it's totally customary for next of kin to do a little tap dance, or some vaudeville prior to the eulogy.

i'm going to let the living decide what to do with my corpse, so long as i'm not a financial burden i think anything else is vain.

MiloMinderbinder · #10 10-27-2007, 12:39 PM

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yeah because it's totally customary for next of kin to do a little tap dance, or some vaudeville prior to the eulogy.

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No, but it is totally customary for people to buy an $8000 casket, coordinate a wake and ceremony, drop everything in their life and book a flight and hotel across the country, and then stuff their kids into a black suit. Which is exactly why I don't want one either. It just makes the lives of the living a pain in the ass on my behalf for a week.