Can relationship trust be regained?

[mntbikr15]

Title sorta sums up the basic question.

WAS going to write out my whole story and decided no one really wanted to read it. If the answer to the Q depends on the specifics of the situation than I will.

I will offer that the issues only went as far as kissing and developing feelings for another man....nothing more...or so she says and given that I can read her very well Id put the chances of it being the truth at >90%.

So, once my fiance has broken my trust...and Ive broken hers(snooping after finding out, she caught me)....will I EVER be able to get it out of my mind, to overlook it and go on with our lives? I dont doubt that our love is still there...just that I can ever get it out of my mind....I DO think Im able to forgive her.

Will she?

Thoughts?

Serious answers only...preferably from someone who has been in the same spot.

Thanks,
Evan

[sonneti]

Not in my experience, do yourself a favour and start out fresh.

[Blarg]

Nothing more than developing feelings for another man? That's worse than f*cking him. And this is your fiance?

Unless you're a stalker, don't fall for that "you're just as guilty as me cuz you snooped" crap.

This could easily not be the last time this is going to happen. Do you always want to be thinking about that? Or conversely, promise yourself that you'll never think twice or try to find out about whether you're a cuckold or not? Are you comfortable with either of the two alternatives above? If you find out you're a cuckold after marriage, will you be pretty comfortable about staying in the marriage, and with the idea that it may happen yet again? If so, there's no reason not to marry your cheating fiance.

[Fast Food Knight]

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I will offer that the issues only went as far as kissing and developing feelings for another man....nothing more...

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I am 23 and therefore short on life experience, but in my opinion....no.

[firstyearclay]

I was in a similar situation a few years ago. I was in TURMOIL over figuring out what to do.

My best friend said something that I will never forget: "She did it once, so she most probably will do it again" Those words stuck in my head throughout trying to work things out for one year before we eventually we broke apart.

Although, In rare situations it does work out (I personally know of examples) it just seems life is to short. Start over and find someone else.

If she does it again, where are you at?

fyc

P.S. Be prepared for the fact that she f'd him already. If ANYTHING, at least be prepared.

[mntbikr15]

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Nothing more than developing feelings for another man? That's worse than f*cking him. And this is your fiance?


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Good point....hadnt really thought about it in this respect.

[Genz]

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That's WAY worse than the kissing and often even worse than a banging. When a woman says that, you're dead. Sorry for your loss.

[xxThe_Lebowskixx]

OP,

Relationships are not about love, they are about possessing someone. This means that someone can never slip up. If they do, you end it with them immediately.

The next girl you enter a relationship with might do the samething that this one did, only she will not let you find out and all will be well.

[BillNye]

Your gf is an idiot. Obviously you are gonna "snoop" around and figure out what happened after finding out she was developing feelings for another dude, when your talking about your [censored] fiance, more or less soon to be wife.

She is an idiot by default, your an idiot for listening to her.

[Genz]

Now exploit her for some really weird make-up sex and then dump her really quick. TR with pix are welcome LDO.