Weighty issue I feel powerless to handle (Longest Post Ever OMG)

[Shajen]

She turned 27 a month ago.

Time for her to make her own decisions. Seriously. She isn't 16. She's leading her own life. From her mother's perspective, she's trying (albeit very wrongly, imo) to do the best for her daughter. There does reach a point though where all you can do is let your kids make their own way. Sounds like this woman has a very hard time doing that.