Personal / dating / whatever life situation general advice thread

[steel108]

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I'm going to break up with my girlfriend. This is the first serious relationship I've gotten myself into and will also be the first heavy break up. Been with her about a year, has been incredibly fun at times but we've argued too much for the last month and a half, which turned me way off to her. I attempted to do this all ready twice. One time was a two-minute talk that resulted in her calling me the next day (I would have never called her) and us getting back together. Then I tried again on the grounds that I didn't want to have a girlfriend, still trying to maintain that I liked her, but when trying to break up she convinced me - and I realized - that there's no real reason to break up right now. Before I was 50-70% sure I needed to end it but now its more like 80-90. She's real nice, very cool and fun, I just don't want her as a girlfriend anymore. How do I do this while hurting her feelings least? I don't really want to say something like "I just don't like you anymore" if I don't have to, but maybe I should(?). Any advice on breaking up/the whole thing?

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Bro, I don't don't want to sound like a prick, but grow up. Everything you wrote in your post is how you feel. Tell her that exactly. Don't sugar coat it, don't give her up. If it was the other way around, wouldn't you want to the truth?

[Bob6149]

I'm thinking of quitting my job and playing poker for a couple of years. I know you've read that opening line before, but hopefully this post is a little different, though I dunno if I'll get any useful advice here.

I am thinking of buying a nice-ish car, driving somewhere warm for the winter (like Portugal or the south of France), and living there for three months. Then I shall drive someplace else in Europe, or even further afield, and live there for three months. I will attempt to learn the language, learn the city, and have adventures. Repeat until I stop winning money at poker/get bored.

Most poker pros do badly because they get over-stressed or they get bored. I won't get over-stressed: I have plenty of savings and I have played poker for a living for two years before, 2002-2004. I make a lot more now and have a better idea of how to go about it. I hope to avoid boredom by travelling around - infact, that's the main aim.

I'm not that good at meeting new people and I'm not well organised - I will have a hard time looking for somewhere to live in a new country, particularly with the language barrier. In part, I want to do this because it will put me in a situation where I can learn these skills.

This is a second account here - I am quite good at poker but no superstar. I can easily hit $100/hour, and can probably hit $150/hour. I can put in 20 hours/week for a long, long time. This is (legally) tax free for me.

The problem is that I'll be earning ~$100k pa in the new year at this job. I don't have a degree, but I am smart. This job is specialised enough that there aren't many like it, certainly not in this country. I quite like this job. I don't know what kind of long term future this job has, I may have already hit my ceiling. I'm being purposely vague for the same reason I'm using a second account, I'm sure some of you can figure out why.

So what do I do? Do I take the risk? Do I decide to run around for a few years or do I decide to build a career? I can imagine myself doing either, which is how I usually make hard decisions.

[jackflashdrive]

I am getting divorced, currently back in Orlando, FL licking my wounds.

I'm going to start taking salsa lessons, which are offered every day in the evenings and probably have a lot of hot single chicks. I figure if the guy who was [censored] my hot soon-to-be-ex-wife met her that way, then I probably have a chance to [censored] someone else's hot wife (or, say, a single, available chick) doing the same thing.

I might also take cooking lessons.

[ArturiusX]

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I am getting divorced, currently back in Orlando, FL licking my wounds.

I'm going to start taking salsa lessons, which are offered every day in the evenings and probably have a lot of hot single chicks. I figure if the guy who was [censored] my hot soon-to-be-ex-wife met her that way, then I probably have a chance to [censored] someone else's hot wife (or, say, a single, available chick) doing the same thing.

I might also take cooking lessons.

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Why are you looking for a rebound so quickly?

[keikiwai]

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I am getting divorced, currently back in Orlando, FL licking my wounds.

I'm going to start taking salsa lessons, which are offered every day in the evenings and probably have a lot of hot single chicks. I figure if the guy who was [censored] my hot soon-to-be-ex-wife met her that way, then I probably have a chance to [censored] someone else's hot wife (or, say, a single, available chick) doing the same thing.

I might also take cooking lessons.

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Why are you looking for a rebound so quickly?

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it's not a rebound unless it's quick

[jackflashdrive]

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I am getting divorced, currently back in Orlando, FL licking my wounds.

I'm going to start taking salsa lessons, which are offered every day in the evenings and probably have a lot of hot single chicks. I figure if the guy who was [censored] my hot soon-to-be-ex-wife met her that way, then I probably have a chance to [censored] someone else's hot wife (or, say, a single, available chick) doing the same thing.

I might also take cooking lessons.

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Why are you looking for a rebound so quickly?

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I am 30 and feel youth slipping away. [img]/images/graemlins/mad.gif[/img]

[jackflashdrive]

So I go to the bank and seem to have a good rapport with a hot teller (10 body, 7.5 face). She says something about wishing she had coffee (I had coffee) and so after I leave I get a cup and bring it to her and ask if she'd like to get dinner sometime. She writes down her number and gives it to me.

That was three days ago she gave me the number.

I call the number today and get "The verizon number you've dialed has been changed, disconnected, or is no longer in service." WTF. Is it common for girls to give out fake numbers if they don't want a date with you? Is this the most likely explanation or is it actually possible that her number has simply been disconnected in the last three days?

[stinkypete]

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So I go to the bank and seem to have a good rapport with a hot teller (10 body, 7.5 face). She says something about wishing she had coffee (I had coffee) and so after I leave I get a cup and bring it to her and ask if she'd like to get dinner sometime. She writes down her number and gives it to me.

That was three days ago she gave me the number.

I call the number today and get "The verizon number you've dialed has been changed, disconnected, or is no longer in service." WTF. Is it common for girls to give out fake numbers if they don't want a date with you? Is this the most likely explanation or is it actually possible that her number has simply been disconnected in the last three days?

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go ask her?

[jackflashdrive]

pete: Wouldn't it be pathetic of me to ask her about it, if in fact she did intend to give me a bad number?

[Henry17]

So you know the teller from going to the bank often? If yes then the coffee thing is ok otherwise it is creepy.

Girls do give guys fake numbers all the time. I never ask a girl for her number. If she wants me to have it she'll offer it. Which brings me to my next question did she give you her number or did you ask her for it?

If you asked then 99.9% probability she gave you a fake. If she offered then 90%. If she just wanted to blow you off she could have said she had a BF but she might have felt obligated to be receptive since you just went out of your way. Which is why you should never ask someone out at work if they have a service job nor after you do something for them.