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08-13-2007, 10:57 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
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I generally have no problems in social settings but the need to "perform" and live up to certain norms and be "on" a lot can be exhausting. That's probably why I have 10K posts LOL, going out sucks the life out of me. Does anyone ever excuse themselves to go to the bathroom when they barely have to piss? I find myself doing this sometimes in environments where it's formal or I'm not just hanging out with my buddies. It's like I just need a break or something. Going and dribbling what little I have in the tank out while just relaxing is a nice break. [/ QUOTE ] Haven't tried that yet, but I slipped out to pick up some dry cleaning in the middle of a party once. 
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#62
08-13-2007, 10:58 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
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Take comfort in the fact that one ordinary life holds more drama/intrigue/pathos than all of celebrity. [/ QUOTE ] Also, read American Splendor.
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#63
08-13-2007, 11:00 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
Op,
Since youre bipolar you are likely to have an anxiety disorder. I wrote a long post about benzodiazepines and other anxiolytics but the system [censored] up and I lost it. either go talk to your doc or pm me for more info. I might rewrite the post but am much too pissed to right now
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#64
08-13-2007, 11:04 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
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Fill a backpack with a week's supply of clothes and buy a plane ticket to europe (or anywhere with a lot of young tourists). You'll interact with people for a couple days at a time so you wont be so paranoid about being boring, and you'll have lots of fun experiences to add to your anecdote catalog. [/ QUOTE ] agreed - not to mention you may actually have stories people want to hear
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#65
08-13-2007, 11:07 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
Does anyone ever excuse themselves to go to the bathroom when they barely have to piss? I find myself doing this sometimes in environments where it's formal or I'm not just hanging out with my buddies. It's like I just need a break or something. Going and dribbling what little I have in the tank out while just relaxing is a nice break.
If you've got much social anxiety at all this is standard.
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#66
08-13-2007, 11:10 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
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[ QUOTE ] Take comfort in the fact that one ordinary life holds more drama/intrigue/pathos than all of celebrity. [/ QUOTE ] Also, read American Splendor. [/ QUOTE ] [censored] me. Is this in AS? I thought I was being deep. [img]/images/graemlins/crazy.gif[/img] (Although I absolutely believe in the veracity of my musings)
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#67
08-13-2007, 11:20 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
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Does anyone ever excuse themselves to go to the bathroom when they barely have to piss? I find myself doing this sometimes in environments where it's formal or I'm not just hanging out with my buddies. It's like I just need a break or something. Going and dribbling what little I have in the tank out while just relaxing is a nice break. If you've got much social anxiety at all this is standard. [/ QUOTE ] I do this all the time, even at family functions, or when an uncle comes over. I can even remember at one of my godparents 80th birthday I went and hid beside the water heater outside because I couldn't find the bathroom. Pretty f ing pathetic if I do say so myself.
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#68
08-13-2007, 11:23 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
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Do two things: 1) Read "How to win friends and influence people" 2) Join Toastmasters I am naturally outgoing but had a couple of friends who were shy and slightly socially inept join Toastmasters in University and it really helped them. I have always heard that reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is good too. Regards, Wooodguy [/ QUOTE ] What is Toastmasters? And I've read a good bit of how to win friends and influence people and I thought it was a bit hokey, look in someones eyes, repeat their name, repeat what they say etc. Honestly the book that did the single most to change me was The Game actually. What's kind of sick is the job that I used to do required me to be a brilliant conversationalist. I worked for an oil company doing ROW work, and had to go door to door trying to sell people who didn't want a pipeline an easement. That pretty much forced me to be social and helped a ton. Since then it seems to have gone.
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#69
08-14-2007, 12:21 AM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
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08-14-2007, 01:15 AM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
As much as a life coach sounds like a stupid thing I think it would certainly help.
See how much it costs and give it a try.
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