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10-01-2007, 04:14 PM
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Re: How do you open up a shy girl
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 [/ QUOTE ] I lol:ed. 
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#23
10-01-2007, 04:19 PM
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Re: How do you open up a shy girl
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OP, I think I understand your situation. You don't like girls who talk too much, but you don't want to seem like you're dominating a conversation with a quiet girl, despite the fact that you don't know how to talk to either type of girl. [/ QUOTE ] Yup. I think you pretty much nailed it.
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#25
10-01-2007, 04:32 PM
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Re: How do you open up a shy girl
Show them your documents...
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#26
10-01-2007, 04:52 PM
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Re: How do you open up a shy girl
Initially you're going to dominate the conversation. That's just the way things work unfortunately.
But once you create a vibe with her, you need to get her talking for a significant amount of your conversation (~40%). There are three ideas that will help. 1) Allow her to qualify herself. She won't feel invested in the conversation until she actually reveals something of substance about herself. A standard line for letting her qualify herself is "so what do you have going for you besides your looks?" In your case something that could work is "wow, I thought you were such a shy, quiet thing but now you won't stop giggling. That's awesome (bring her in for a hug or high-five or reward her physically in some way)!" 2) Create a vacuum when you ask a question. There are correct and incorrect ways to ask non yes/no questions. When you ask one after you've hooked her into an interaction, let/make her answer. Ask the question and look at her expectantly. Don't take the conversational pressure off of her by continuing to talk or explain the question. If she gives a lame answer, call her out on it, re-apply conversational pressure. It's this "vacuum" of providing a topic for her and then not talking that will help get her out of her shell. 3) Foreshadow. Very early on in the interaction try to work into a story or life-view that you value women who can hold their own in two-way conversations. This is also another opportunity for her to qualify herself by adopting that role you set up. Yugoslav
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#29
10-01-2007, 05:41 PM
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Re: How do you open up a shy girl
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[ QUOTE ] Forceps. [/ QUOTE ] Nice. I wanted to give an answer like this but 5 or 6 people beat me to it. I think forceps is a winner. [/ QUOTE ] With some of the broads I've gone out with, the correct answer is more like "jaws of life": 
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