Poker & Your Girlfriend

[govman6767]

Just gave my GF a 15k car and paid cash. She still won't let me play poker on sunday and monday

[mce86]

When I met my girlfriends parents for the first time, the first thing her dad asked me was "so, howd you do in the Heartland Poker Tournament"....and we talked about how I busted out...my girlfriend listens to all my stories and keeps me level headed about poker, its actually the one thing i do that she doesnt mind. Now browsing 2+2 forums all day is another story!

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My g/f almost certainly thinks i spend too much time playing poker but then I didnt ask her to move in with me and to be brutally honest, it's only the poker which allows me to put up with her.

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my g/f is a clinical depressive who used emotional blackmail to move in with me when i wasn't prepared for it. this basically ended my 15-year career in an excellent job as an I.T. consultant that travelled Europe. whether i couldnt do the job because of her neediness or whether i just couldnt be bothered anymore because of pathetic situation i got myself into would be up for psychological debate. what i'm saying is that if i didnt have the outlet of poker i would probably have long been found up some alleyway with a needle in my arm.

hows that for brutal honesty among poker players?

the irony of this is that i actually make a reasonable living out of poker - it pays my bills, and i enjoy it.

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[gatorch0mp]

LOL... I hear ya... my wife won't refer to it as "poker" either... it's always "gambling"... my online poker time is pretty much only after everyone goes to sleep... or the occassional "gambling day" my wife allows me at the local casino... but it's never to profit, it's a gift to me from her just as long "as I'm having fun"... she so generous [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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[tehkris]

dude, it's like you're in my head walking around. My gf hates poker, help me!!

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My friend had the same problem with his Fiance, after she went at him on a 15 minute rant about his playing poker and that if he didnt quit she would leave him. His reply was "are you done? I have a tournament starting in 15 minutes."

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[thac]

I figure I can share my story.

I've been dating my girlfriend (now fiancee) for 13 months (and 6 months prior) now, and she has known about me playing poker since I've started in late 2005. She knows I make money and she likes having the extra spending cash.

She didnt mind when times were tough (lol nl25) and she supported me the whole way. I was living with my parents at the time, and in May, we decided that we were gonna move to a new town (my girlfriend and I).

I had a job at a distribution center, getting up at 5am for $9.50/hr sucked so bad and I was depressed all the time. I found a new job working at a pizza place (with tips it ended up being around $11.50/hr) part-time while I played poker, girlfriend fully supported that because I make more when I play than when I work. Well, about a month into that job my bosses were pretty retarded and made [censored] business decisions and switched my schedule around, so I told my girlfriend about it and she pretty much flat out told me that I could play poker for a living while going to school because she knows I'm good enough.

We're engaged now and plan to be married in a couple years (she wants to be 21 first), and I've never been happier because I set my own hours, and she doesn't have to spend every weekend night alone until 2 am when I used to get home from work.


It's all about finding the right girl.

[WiredSevens]

I explained to my girlfriend (who is a smart cookie) about how I've read 5+ poker books and explained a little of the math of it. Thus proving that it is profitable to play as I am a winning player. Even explained my win-rate over dozens of live sessions to shut her up.

I also told her:

"I can't be THAT lucky, it is my Skill, and heck if I am THAT lucky then you should be happy because you're with me: the Super lucky one" lawl

She would fully understand that poker (for me) is +EV, except for the fact that she (like many women in this situation) do not listen. They just keep their pre-existing notions on gambling and hold to them.

My girlfriend finally understands somewhat, but I do my best to never bring up poker. She may accept it and understand it somewhat, but she doesn't need to hear about the gambling.

Gambling is a touchy subject for most peoples. And if it isn't a "touchy subject" then that person is probably a gambler, and a loser at that (as the ratio of losers to winners is massive).

One final note in convincing your girlfriend that poker is perfectly fine:

Money Talks.

[WiredSevens]

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It's all about finding the right girl.

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You may be spot on here.

[Sparki]

There are tons of girls out there that will be supportive. You really do just need to find one that is okay with it. Also keep in mind that sometimes it's nice to have something that your gf doesn’t have or do. You should both enjoy the things you do together. Most importantly as stated above if your gf does start playing keep your comments to yourself!!!!!

I think that it is way harder for girls who play (more than just for fun) to find accepting bf's. My Ex used to get mad because I would go to the casino and sit at a table with a ton of men who would hit on me all night long. He thought that I was going to get beat up or mugged on my way out and just hated me playing. Then if you find a guy who plays they don’t like it when you play better then them or at a higher limit or whatever.