My life is over. - Page 5

ZeeJustin · #41 11-12-2006, 04:50 AM

There are several good ideas in this thread.

The obvious one is to dump here, but clearly you are against that.

Soundproofing sounds like it could solve the problem.

Clearly you need a sense of seperation from "life" when you are at work. Perhaps you could play somewhere else. Is there an office space nearby you could use? Perhaps you could bring a laptop to a starbucks. Do you have a friend that is gone from home all day? Maybe you could use his house. Get creative and improvise. I'm sure there is a solution along these lines.

Thailand is a bit extreme... but it's still an option.

Counseling sounds like a great idea, but it's a slow process. I think you would need to take one of the above ideas as a temporary solution before you could rely on counseling as a permanent solution.

I know I'm just a kid, but I found your story very touching, and I really hope that you can find a solution, and I know you can... if you want to. Clearly if you give up now, you are severely limiting your options 6 months down the road, but from the sound of things, you don't need to give up anytime soon.

If small-stakes are really an impassable issue, consider selling more stuff or taking out a loan, but after you do that, make sure you use some strict bankroll management to avoid ever having to put yourself in that tough spot ever again.
-Best of luck with poker and life in general

blueodum · #42 11-13-2006, 02:51 AM

<i>No decent self-respecting woman is going to get a full-time job to support a man playing cards all day.</i>

How about getting a full time job to support herself?

blueodum · #43 11-13-2006, 03:01 AM

So how does three months of losing but you on the verge of bankruptcy?

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You may not understand how quickly a series of monster losing sessions coupled with living "well" (and not saving sufficiently) can do to a bankroll.

goodgrief · #44 11-13-2006, 05:17 PM

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How about getting a full time job to support herself?

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She's done that. Her full-time job is catching a man. Sad to say it, but for an unskilled woman in her forties, what other job do you suggest that she can get that would pay anywhere near as well?

PLOlover · #45 11-13-2006, 05:29 PM

You could always make the case that her "job" is to be out of the house while you work.

goodgrief · #46 11-14-2006, 12:26 AM

Dude, you could try. It would work for me. But I am sorry to say that most women of my generation are not logical. If she does start going out of the house while the dude is working, it is not because she suddenly respects his game, it's because she's shopping for his replacement.

I hate to be a betrayer of woman kind and all that, but honestly, if I knew this dude and cared about this dude, three words: cut your losses.

If I knew the woman and was trying to protect her, I'd be saying, keep him happy until you find the replacement. Which, unfortunately, most women don't know how to "keep him happy" without invading his space.

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You could always make the case that her "job" is to be out of the house while you work.

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pipedreamz · #47 11-14-2006, 12:48 AM

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Dude, you could try. It would work for me. But I am sorry to say that most women of my generation are not logical. If she does start going out of the house while the dude is working, it is not because she suddenly respects his game, it's because she's shopping for his replacement.

I hate to be a betrayer of woman kind and all that, but honestly, if I knew this dude and cared about this dude, three words: cut your losses.

If I knew the woman and was trying to protect her, I'd be saying, keep him happy until you find the replacement. Which, unfortunately, most women don't know how to "keep him happy" without invading his space.

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i think i'm in love

if OP does not update us, that is really messed up.

depguy · #48 11-14-2006, 03:41 AM

Hello again everybody,

First I want once more to thank you all for your ideas, support and kind suggestions. It has been a real help to read them and compare points of views from different persons.

After my last update, I took a plane and went visiting some friends abroad. I just left a note at home explaining that I was very stressed and needed some time on my own. It was very relaxing to be away and see some old friends. I could talk to them about all this and take a break from poker.
To summarize, my friends told me the same as most of you did, that I have to think about myself and if I feel that my GF is an obstacle to that, I have to consider splitting.
They also said that maybe it was not her fault, but just the fact that I felt it was indicated that the relation was in trouble. I agree with that because I had reached the point where every little thing she did was irritating me and perhaps It was unfair to say that she was the direct cause of my bad poker results. But she was a catalisator because I started to feel exploited and she wouldn't take my gamming seriously though we both lived from it.

After a week I came back home and everything was as usual. I played again for the first time in 2 weeks and even if I am now playing at limits I would have consider a joke earlier, I took it seriously and was able to win.
The playing conditions had however not changed, she would still interrupt me every 5 minutes, and showed no intention of doing otherwise.

So we had a talk and once again I tried to explain how serious our situation had becomed, how I felt and that I was hoping that she would help by finding a job for herself; not that much because of the money she could earn, but because it would kept her busy and give me a chance to rebuild a decent bankroll.

Next day she went out for a few hours and came back around lunch time announcing that she was hungry and asking me what I had prepared for lunch.
That did it for me. I told her that we were broke, that the only thing we had to eat was the few groceries we had at home and that when they were gone, we had no money to buy anything else. Things are not that bad yet, but she doesn't know it and she probably thought I was joking and didn't pay attention to me, but 2 days later (today) she begun getting worried as no money was to be found at home and she was unable to go shopping.

She spent most of the evening in front of the computer looking for jobs and finally decided for some waitress job downtown. She says she will call them tomorrow and even if it is part-time it would be great for both of us.

I am of course glad if she keeps her prommiss but it feels somehow wrong that she only reacts when she believes that we're at the end of the road. My feelings for her have changed a lot in 2 weeks and I also believe that she is preparing herself to leave me. The job is probably not so much to help us but to help her move out.

So I don't know if this is good or bad but at least I will have some hours of peace at home and will be able to play some poker. Time will show how the realtion goes.

To those asking how I could be broke in a few months of running bad, I can only repeat what an other poster wrote; when your BR is not that big, you are used to spending a lot and are running bad for 3/4 months in a row, the snowball rolls very fast.

A lesson for me to learn of course and motivation to be more carefull in the future.

One more time, thank you for reading.

PLOlover · #49 11-14-2006, 09:50 AM

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she was hungry and asking me what I had prepared for lunch.

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LOLOLOLOLOL

aflaba · #50 11-14-2006, 01:12 PM

Posting pretty blind, so sorry if this has been discussed.

Maybe she is a bitch who is just using you for money and who doesn't respect you. But maybe she is a nice woman and is just frustrated because she is at home all day and has to stay quiet when she really doesn't like to have it quiet. You know best which it is. Break up with her if it is the first. If it is the second, then sound-proofing your room sounded like a good idea. Otherwise you can try to rent a small space somewhere, or play in an internet cafe. Maybe it would be worth $2 per hour to not have to disturb her and have her disturb you and you two getting angry with each other. You could porbablt sit somewhere for like $.5 per hour if you buy 200 up front or somehting.

Other than that, the usual applies. Try to get better at poker. Maybe get a caoch. Maybe watch some videos. If that doesn't work then try to take more casino and poker bonuses.