Open relationships

hoyasnaxa · #1 07-07-2007, 08:01 PM

Just wanted to know if anyone was involved seriously with someone and it was an open relationship, meaning you are allowed to hook up with others as long as you let them know, but there was one specific person that was your gf or bf. Just wanted to get some info.

MissT74 · #2 07-07-2007, 08:09 PM

Yes

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Red Lion · #3 07-07-2007, 08:11 PM

They have never worked in my experience. My ex-gf had always told me it was ok to sleep with other girls as long as it didnt mean anything and I kept her informed. Guess what happened as soon as I did?

Dont do it. It will only lead to heartache ect.

xxThe_Lebowskixx · #4 07-07-2007, 08:16 PM

Lion,

Why didnt you just sleep with them and forget to tell her about it? She already gave you the green light. Why would she want you to keep her informed?

hoyasnaxa · #5 07-07-2007, 08:21 PM

i dont just want to know if it has ever happened, but want to know how it went and if it worked, if you liked, whatever.

Humbled · #6 07-07-2007, 09:34 PM

99% of the time it won't work. Relationships are not meant to be open like that.

mason55 · #7 07-07-2007, 09:36 PM

there was a thread about this in EDGD a little bit ago

http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/sh...Number=9415442

Dan BRIGHT · #8 07-08-2007, 01:22 AM

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99% of the time it won't work. Relationships are not meant to be open like that.

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yea because its not gods way blah blah blah!

NT! · #9 07-08-2007, 01:32 AM

i think they don't tend to work because that's not how we're socialized. it's not even (usually) something where we can make a conscious decision, it's more rooted in the patterns of attachment and behavior modeling we encounter from a very young age.

ms thumb and i have discussed many times how humans are probably not exactly 'wired' for monogamy, but i still don't think i could let some other dude plow her.

Mitternacht · #10 07-08-2007, 01:33 AM

I'm in an open marriage. No problems so far and I don't foresee any coming up.