Personal / dating / whatever life situation general advice thread

[traz]

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Why do American guys feel the need to be serial daters even if they know nothing long term can work out due to their current status. Arg.

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uh, cause we gots to get some?

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So as long as you have a symbolic tag of 'dating', girls put out more? We just skip the formalities in Australia it seems [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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To me, the term dating is almost synonymous to "non-exclusively banging".

Feel free to discuss, I think we're on the same page and just arguing semantics

[ArturiusX]

Dating to me deems exclusiveness, a level of seriousness over say, two people who just know each other. Dating implies you're planning on regularly seeing other each.

[traz]

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a level of seriousness over say, two people who just know each other.

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agree

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Dating implies you're planning on regularly seeing other each.

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agree

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Dating to me deems exclusiveness

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disagree.

I think the term is fairly confusing nowadays, so it's probably a good idea to make sure things are clear when you start "dating" someone.

[JanelleBB7]

Yeah dating is not serious.. it just means you are seeing each other multiple times. Boyfriend/Girlfriend denotes seriousness.

[ILDUCE47]

Alright I got one. (still in HS fwiw) Met a girl at the beginning of the school year. We kinda got to hanging out more at school. Went to HC together, but it was kinda as friends. So we go to a few football games together then usually grab some food and chill at her house w/ some friends. We've been out with her friends mostly, and usually her ex is there or some guy that obviously likes her. Strange thing is, when her ex is there or w/e, she apologizes because she thinks it will be awkward for me. I've asked her twice to go out w/o her friends to which she agreed, but then had an excuse the next day. I'm honestly lost, any ideas?

[JaBlue]

broke up with my girlfriend of 11 months two weeks ago. Was invited to a weekend camping trip by a mutual friend who may want my nuts and with whom I would definitely get with. Upon hearing that we're going camping, ex-girlfriend's tells me, "don't hook up with K." How much should I respect this? Isn't the onus on K and not me?

[Lethe]

You can't let your ex-girlfriend dictate who you can and can't hook up with. IMO the onus is on K, much like it would be on you if a friend of yours broke up with his GF.

[traz]

uhh, if my ex tells me not to have sex with a girl, i'm going to have sex with her twice

[kafkaFan1]

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I wrecked a car couple of years ago and now I have a job and they've given me a car and I'm petrified of driving. I still drive, but I'm always scared - avoiding highways, not going out of the house unless i absolutely have to.

I always feel like people are staring at me when I drive and that I'm always doing something wrong. This makes me even more nervous and as you can see it's a really stressful situation. How do I get over this?

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a couple people said the same thing as what im about to say. i was in a couple car accidents (other drivers) and after that i had constant anxiety in the car. it took a full 3-6 years but its gone now. so figure the same for yousrelf, takes time

[AbreuTime]

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Alright I got one. (still in HS fwiw) Met a girl at the beginning of the school year. We kinda got to hanging out more at school. Went to HC together, but it was kinda as friends. So we go to a few football games together then usually grab some food and chill at her house w/ some friends. We've been out with her friends mostly, and usually her ex is there or some guy that obviously likes her. Strange thing is, when her ex is there or w/e, she apologizes because she thinks it will be awkward for me. I've asked her twice to go out w/o her friends to which she agreed, but then had an excuse the next day. I'm honestly lost, any ideas?

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She apologizes because either a) she likes you (OMG) or b) she thinks you like her or c) you are awkwardly possessive around guys that like her. Dude, you know best whether the excuses that she gave you were real. It's hs and you're already hanging out with her. I suggest you find a 1-on-1 activity that she would want to do and take her to it. Don't ask her, just say you're gonna take her on an adventure or something (just dont go minigolfing). If she doesnt want to go on an adventure (WHO DOESN'T?!? lol), then she's not into you.